day 3

well.........didnt paint a full picture tuesday . now im not looking for sympathy but things aint easy and most of us have the same get out in life . the missos has another op on thurs next so i knowwhy she is being a cow but it still dont help . on tuesday she really ripped into me over nothing , now im the first person to say its undrstandble but it dont help. have kept away from her since and not spoken but yesterday went on a bender which led to the betting shop , not very proud and i know im making excuses but thats it, time to start over which is a bloody shame dont think i'll be dishing out advise for a while. all the best john.

John

My hubby is a diabetic which caused him to get into real foul moods at times and it was at these times that i gambled more, but 2 weeks into my recovery he was being particularly moody and all i wanted to do was to go down the arcade and get away from him, but just before i stormed out i decided to call the helpline and they managed to talk me out of it.

It was the best move that i have taken, so if you feel down, then pick up the phone, it will be worth it.

Instead of kicking yourself over your slip then learn from it and hopefully it will make you stronger.

Take care

Tracy xx

thankyou tracey , i know your advice is sound but depends on where the urge catches you i suppose had no intention of doing the dirty deed but a combo of pub and journey home did it. fortunately after another barrage this morning where i had a go back as much as i didnt want to the girl has her human head back on . as for me just start over with a depleted bank balance and more help from good mates .can also sympathise with your situation with hubby , and it certainly proves that stress makes us lash out thanks and all the best john.

Hi John

Ok you have had a slip, I think when we all get stressed we all go back to our habits that are a comfort to us.

I know missus is under stress at the moment but you have to realise that you are to you must be worried about her.

Ok accept what you have done and today is another day, do not say you are not going to post, because being on this site is so helpful in hours of need.

Take care and try and keep strong

Dont forget John, one day at a time

Luckygirl

hello lg, you too are right .but by saying i wouldnt/shouldnt give advice to others was more a dig at myself really , ie how can i give advise after being a t**t myself. but as you say one day at a time still mad at ME but forgive myself lesson learned( again ) onward and upward thanks for caring.all the best john.

Hi John,

As you know, I slipped last week, and having thought about it, i did it a day after i decided i was going to come clean and tell my parents about my problem. That was the easy bit. When i started to think about what i would say to them, the stress got too much, and the gremlins came out to play.

You're not a t**t (if you are, then so are the rest of us who slip!). When the pressure builds for anyone they do what they feel most comfortable doing. Some like to be alone, some eat, some self harm, we gamble. Like you said, its a lesson learned, i certainly learned mine this past week.

Dont let the slip knock you, forget about it and think about tomorrow 🙂

AJ

Have to agree with Aj John,

Kim xx

thanks aj and kim . it wont happen again in a hurry im sure . all the best john.

Hi john, thank you for your supportive posting on my diary, much appreciated.

Its good you have realised why you had slip and I have to admit to throwing my toys out of the pram when I slipped big time!!!

But realise this forum is beneficial and am being more realistic about my approach to a non gambling life. Will give you any support I can on you achieving same. cheers Joy x

We are all here for you John.

Please also remember that the helpline is available whenever you want someone to listen.

BW

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thanks for that joy , and helen too i know i could phone but the extent of my phone dialogue is normally ....ok see you up pub!!! but seriously i will if i feel the need.

thought a lot about a couple of days ago and this is what i think.

i am an ex gambler.

over the last month or so i had one bet.

if i was an ex smoker and i had one f*g in a month then , carried on without smoking , i would still be an ex smoker as long as i didnt cave in and go back to the bad old ways.

therefore .......im still an ex gambler!!!!all the best john.

Great way to think about yourself John. I am glad that you are in a much more positive frame of mind.

Here is to many more days of you (an all of us) being an ex gambler.

Have a great day.

Tracy xx

Hey ho superman. I respect your last quote, as you said, all is not lost. Been a CG, you must be as competitive person and so use it to your advantage. It can be good also. Challange yourself to see if you can last longer and reward your self with something that will tickle your pickle, eg clothes, food etc. Keep being strong and possitive and remember....

'Its all good jimmy!'

Sacksack

thanks tracey and sadcase , nice comments from you both and we all know that is what this place should be all about. we seem to be able to offer each other that little bit more insight into any encouragement, i now feel as strong as i did a week ago which i know wouldnt be the case if i wernt a member here.best wishes to you both and everyone here. john.

John, well done with not gambling.I dont know why but your message made me think you cannot beat yourself up if you have a blip.I successfully gave up smoking and hopefully I will beat gambling. Your comment was so pasitive take care.