Hi guys I've been reading the forum the past few days but this is my first time starting a recovery diary,
I've began my recovery on Friday morning after a night of heavy gambling Thursday, it was online and I gambled away 500 pounds this is when I realised I have a problem the next morning I was numb with anger and disappointment and from reading other posts by members this feeling is common throughout,
I've always gambled but only small amounts It wasn't until I found online gambling where my addiction started I've only been doing it around 4-5 months but in that space of time I've gambled 4000 pounds, a lot of money when you compare it to my salary,
On Friday morning I came clean to my mother and girlfriend and surprisingly they didn't disown me as I thought they were going to, after the initial dissapointend they have taken it upon themselves to help me with my addiction to which I'm forever grateful, I promised them that I will get help and do everything in my means to never gamble again, I have turned to God, joined this forum and I'm attending my first GA meeting Wednesday, I plan on getting the help I need to bid adjue to this awful addiction,
I know I can do it as long as I don't waver from my plans of keeping busy, prayer and attending meetings, I have also passed all my finances over to my mother for her to control,
I'm only 23 but I feel I won't last long if I keep on gambling as it has had an extreme pressure on my health I haven't slept properly in weeks but after coming clean and accepting I have a problem I have had a few great nights sleep, I'm going to enjoy a non gambling life and live every day to the full,
My account name for-Jennifer is called this as I'm doing this all for Jennifer my girlfriend as she's a total star for whom I wouldn't be without and she has given me the ultimatum that it's gambling or her and I have of course picked her and I intend to make everything right that I have made wrong through gambling,
Thank you to anyone who has read my first diary entry and I intend on making a lot more
Hi - you must feel a whole lot better getting this into the open. I am glad your family and girlfriend are helping you and know you will repay their loyalty by kicking this annoying habit.
Make no mistake turning to God is also a major turning point and if you put your trust in him and seek his guidance you will not only find peace through not gambling but also influence others who are struggling with similar challenges. If it helps there is an online resource called 'Our Daily Bread' which is free and has an app - there is a reading each day which I usually find very helpful.
Please keep us posted on your progress.
Best wishes
Dave
Thank you very much Dave for your reply, I do feel so much better the past few days I feel like a huge weight has lifted and this weight will never return as long as I don't gamble,
I have been at my church the past few days and feel inspired and at peace with myself and I believe this is through the higher power of God so while I keep my faith I will not gamble I believe I lost my way and this Is when the gambling kicked in and took over
That's great - stay strong as the devil will strike when you are feeling tempted and there is nothing wrong with being tempted but the victory is in not giving in.
I tried and tried and tried but could never win - greed always took over and in all honesty I didn't need the money I was trying to win as I have more than enough. Gambling brings out all the wrong behaviours in people - life will be so much better now.
Dave
You sounds really positive pal - good luck and pleased you're making good progress.
Thanks Dave,
Yes change i feel extremely positive and long may it continue as I believe negative feelings get us nowhere the addiction feeds off negative feelings,
This awful habit is not going to tell me what to do ever again
For-jennifer
Hi guys just checking in for day 4,
It's been a really amazing day me and my girlfriend had a day off we went to a little town in the south of Ireland (I'm from Northern Ireland btw) and we went for a walk and stopped in a cafe for some pancakes which were amazing
We then went to a park for a walk and ended up on the zip line like children, I honestly have to say it felt great getting out and about and haven't had an urge to gamble all day,
I feel amazing now that I've nothing to hide and that I can get on with a gambling free life
For-Jennifer
So day 5 went well I attended my first GA meeting I felt very welcome in it and got a lot of advice from people who have all been in my position, one man has been there for 11 years and hasn't had a bet since, one thing that was said tonight was something that will stick with me throughout my recovery 'Even though we're compulsive gamblers it doesn't make us much different than anyone else, we can do anything in this world we set our minds to just like everyone else, the only thing we can't do is place a bet and this is a minor thing that makes us different than all the rest' this definitely made me feel better and I know as long as I don't place that one bet I'm just like everyone else who is a non gambler
For-Jennifer
day 6 has went normal, I did get a slight urge to gamble earlier as i take my mother to do the groceries once a week and each time I do while waiting around on her I would buy a scratchcard just out of boredom, and this has went on for as long as i remember today was the first day i didnt do it,
saying that the urge didnt last long and im not even sure if it was an urge or just habbit kicked in and i stopped it as it didnt take me long at all to change my thinking and didnt feel like i had been deprived of anything,
im looking forward to saturday to getting back to another GA meeting i got alot from last nights and really think they are a great thing its so good to be in a place where theres no need to hide who you are or the mistakes youve made if anyone hasnt attended a meeting before i would recomend going to at least one and see what you think, i had expected a completely different situation than the one i walked into, for today i will not gamble,
For-jennifer
Well done on day 6... sounds like a good day. Keep going!
Day 7 of sobriety and I feel great I've a new lease of life I know it may get harder but for today I have a choice and I've chosen not to gamble
For-jennifer
So im onto day 9, its going great, so good that im scared its too good if that makes sense, I have a completely different way of life now compared just over a week ago when i had hit my rock bottom,
I just think to myself i have taken all the steps to hand over my finances to my mother and wonder if I had access to the funds would i gamble?
at the moment I don't even think about it, I wake up in the morning and choose not to gamble and feel great for making the right choice
Today I have a choice and I've chosen not to gamble
For-Jennifer
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