Dilemma

Russ....ive been at the football this week mate...as for taking a back seat...the diaries mentioned will always be around,its just difficult to post something from a gambling point of view on our own diaries...i think all interest would be lost just posting dailly saying i have not gambled...long term diaries too (graham,dazzler,w,gulls to name but a few ) are always overseeing things yet abstaining ..maybe thats a phase ive reached especially from a mobile ?? Who knows time will only tell..one things for sure with the football season ready to fire we ALL must be on our guard at all times....the most important thing about recovery is looking after number one mate and for now it may look like ive taken a back seat but be assured im still very much around especially with the football started.i know for sure im one bet away from disaster ( even small bets ) so my guards well up mate... ;-)...and yourself not having a bet since chelt (trips to las vegas and racecourses et al) have my utmost respect...best wishes we can do this 🙂

Hope all is going well Russ,good to read all the support your giving on other diaries.keep up the good work,and enjoy the weekend with those youngsters of yours:).

Seano.

Thank you for your post on my diary, and I continue to grow stronger out of the words of others. I hope that the muscles have eased today!!!!! have a wonderful gamble free weekend!!!!!!!!

Russ,

Thanks for the post mate - as always - great to read.

Well, here comes the big day - got up early to meet the challenge head on - by playing golf til 12!! That way - I'll probably fall asleep this afternoon - and miss all the fun!

Anyway, hope you're starting to recover from your "cricketgolfathon" - we'll touch base on Monday after another gamble free weekend!

Stay strong and keep posting Russ - you're a real inspiration to a lot of people on here.

All the best

Hatch

Cheers wp, seano, beezer and the hatch man. Well, here comes the start of the premiership. I for one know that I will not be betting today. I've got a wedding in the worcester area. It reminds me that on my own wedding I was having a bet with mates on the king George at ascot about five minutes before I went into the church. Pretty disgraceful behaviour when you look back. I wish everybody well today. Keep yourself busy today...go for a long walk, go shopping with the wife, look after the kids....do anything but bet (don't do any crime or drugs, because that wouldn't be great either!) russ

Thanks for your post on my diary

Hope you have a good day! Keep up the good work

love,

Lili

hello mate. I went to uni in Worcester and had 3 of the best years of my life. Worcester is a lovely place!!!! Glad you have continued strength and your words of encouragement are becomming invaluable. i know the start of the premiership will be hard for many to stay away from the beast!!!! hope your wedding goes well and enjoy all that this involves, in a life without the gaming world!!!!

Keep strong

Russ,hope your wedding went well mate... sorry if my post came across the wrong way...keep it going mate your doing extremely well not only for yourself but others too...well done we can do this 😉

Hi Russ,

Hope you enjoyed the wedding mate. Great to see that you are getting to play plenty of golf, i'm playing Thursday aiming for under that ton! Keep up the good work.

Stay Strong

Steve

Thanks everybody for your posts. Oh my word....have I got a bad head on me today!! The wedding turned out to be a proper boozy affair!! Lovely setting and lovely people. I'm 32, but somehow managed to pull out some terrible Dad dancing!! Anyway, it was nice not to be checking my phone or sneaking out to place bets or going back to the car to hear the all important footy scores. I enjoyed the wedding for what is was....a celebration of two people joining together for the rest of their lives.

I'm off to France camping tomorrow so I'm not sure how much access to the internet I'll have. Rest assured, I'll be wishing everybody well in their battles against gambling. Russ

Hope you have a great holiday Russ.

Seano.

Russ, thanks for your suppport on my diary - much appreciated.

So glad that you enjoyed the wedding - and did not "ruin" it by constantly having your attention focused elsewhere. I remember checking my phone in the church once to see if there had been any score - alawys done it at meals out, etc, etc. Good to be able to go out and just relax I guess.

Enjoy the camping and touch base when you return.

All the best

Hatch

Hai Russ

Thanks and as always greatly appreciated posting on my diary!

Have a superb holiday, with the added bonus of a clear head and gambling free life!

Hi Russ,

Hope you enjoy your camping holiday mate.

Sad to see Everton making their ususal stuttering start but i think things will pick up soon enough.

Arteta for England??

Thanks for your posts folks. Well, I'm back from a lovely holiday in the sun. Plenty of time on the beach and plenty of quality time with the family. Also, no gambling.

On our first day back, I had a row with the wife and I wanted to get this down as a point to myself and anybody who is in recovery.

My wife was on the computer and my Facebook page happened to be on. She was looking at the latest posts on there (no problem to me, I have nothing to hide). We had been to a wedding the previous week, I was keen to see if any photos had been added of us. I took the mouse off her her and went to notifications. This very act caused my wife to accuse my of trying to hide something from her. I immediately went on the defensive saying that I just wanted to see if any pictures had been added. The row escalated into the whole issue of trust. She cited that I'm always on the blackberry (I'm checking emails for work) and she doesn't know what I'm up to.

The point I'm making is that in my head I feel like I'm an open book as I have given up gambling and tell her everything. In her head, yes she knows I've given up gambling but my behaviour is still suspicious. The way I reacted in that argument is the same way I used to react when I was gambling.....how does she know the difference even though I do.

It's one thing giving up gambling, but that is not enough for our lovely wife's who we have hurt. It's also about changing our behaviour away from the past. If she asks me in a suspicious manner what I'm UP TO then I need to reply in a calm measured way, rather than feeling aggrieved at the question.

I've destroyed the trust she used to have for me. She used to trust me beyond anything over five years ago. It will take years to get this back and much more than just giving up gambling.

I hope this makes senses

Russ