Failed again but this time ill stop for good.

Hi David,

You know that the only way not to experience those feelings again is not to go down the gambling route. Yes, it is easier said than done to quit gambling, but you've taken those first few steps in stopping. Not being able to plan for the future is part and parcel of having a gambling problem. Yes, you can dream when things are going well, but it never continues to go well, at least it never did in my experience.

Embrace that new beginning, have you considered maybe self-excluding from gambling sites? I know there's always new ones popping up if you look hard enough, but self excluding from the big companies will make it harder to gamble.

Stay strong David, all the best

Ryan

David

welcome again

fella the doors revolve to the road to recovery,however many times you walk in and out it will be there for you,a gift that only you can give to yourself.

There is plenty of great advice here,like minded folk who all share the same goal,to end the destruction that gambling waged upon their lives,to stop gambling stifling their dreams before they have even begun,to actually live a life rather than let gambling steal it.

The truth is my friend you have to want to recover more than you want to lay that next punt.

My advice put some blocks in place to stop youself,to gift your rational side of the brain some thinking time,time to remain a winner,yes a winner

Three days ago you entered the winners enclosure,the way to stay there is simply to not lay that first punt,the deal breaker,the dream buster.

There is a triangle Time-Money-Location

Take one away at all times and the punt becomes impossible

Most of all be proud of what you are doing

Enjoy it

Abstain and maintain

Duncs stepping forward never back

Thanks for the messages guys. Ive now excluded myself from the site i was using. Ive also told my Mum who ive aked to check my bank statements on a monthly basis to check up on me. I was really nervous tell my mum but she seems happy that ive admited i have a problem and is all up for helping me through it. She always knew i gambled and has wanted me to stop for a long time.

Its my birthday today and I feel like this is a new start for me. Into day 8 and i have no urge to gamble at all.

Yo,

Happy birthday , new year in your life , new start. Taken steps to help you fight this addiction , for that I appaulad you , many people talk the talk but do not walk the walk . Mum checking your statements will really help.

Having it out in the open also helps , I for one have not told my nearest and dearest and that weigh heavily on my shoulders each and every day . So again i applaud you .

Can you hit your next birthday with just over a year under your belt ?, you can if you carry on the way you going. Day at time ,

Wishing you a enjoyable day and an attainable goal to achieve when you next blow out those candles , save us a slice , I love cake lol

Shiny x

Hello mate at the moment my advice is to keep up the recovery diary i find that it's a constant reminder everytime I come on here not to gamble always telling me not to do it

it's my 16th day today that I joined and haven't had a bet I'm doing ok money is coming in from work my moods arnt great cause of the s**t it's done to me but everything will start falling to place slowly as long as you keep away from any gambling !

Thanks for your comments Shinny and Hertford. Telling my Mum and Dad is probably the best thing i could do as they just want to help you and will make sure you dont stray back onto the gamlbing path. Saying that there will be a time when they wont be able to look over me as much. I just hope when that time comes ill be strong enough to resist gambling on my own.

Day 10 today. Not gamlbled. Dont ever intend to again.

well done on day 10 of not gambling im on day 52 all them days ago i lost quite a bit of money and i wish i had never started to gamble again as i previously nearly gave up for 10 months would have been october but i gambled. i ve had a nice holiday this year to lanzarote my friend paid £250 for me to go away with her i paid the rest. next year for this year i want to get my job back and then next year i want to buy a new car

Stop, I love the way you are planning how you want to spend your hard earned money in the future. I hope you achieve these and djmorris this is a great idea for you to do so you have something to aim for.

Stay strong

Mba

Thanks guys. Ive never been able to save money. I think the in the last year ive always had a payday loan each month, dragging money forward from the next. I would love to buy a new car, have new clothes and not worry about my money and I easily would have had all these things if i didnt gamble. It makes me feel a bit sick inside thinking about it really. However whats done is done and I cant change the past. I can only look to the future. I want to move out with my friends in just over a year when i hopefully get a new job after passing my exams. If I carry on gamlbing there will be no way i can do this. So I do feel something in my brain has clicked recentley. Its just not worth it.

Day 13 now, I know the weekends is always the hardest so good luck everyone. I definatley wont be gambling and i hope you can all do the same.

Cheers,

Dave

Day 14 gamlbe free nearly complete.

My Mum wants me to get counsling. Im not sure about it to be honest. But if it makes her feel better then i suppose it wouldnt hurt going a couple of times. Anyone got any thoughts on this and how it works?

Thanks

Day 16... keeping strong

Day 19 still not gambled. I am feeling more of an urge in the last few days tho. Hopefully these will pass with time. I need to stay in a framemind that gamlbing always has a negative outcome. If i dont then im affraid ill step backwards again. Its hard when i think more about the big wins ive had and less about the losses. I need to switch that around in my head.

Dave

Day 23. Nearly a month... I would say if I reach a month it will be the longest i have not gambled since i was 16.

Hi Dave,

Thank you for your message on my diary. I really appreciate it. Great work on nearly a month. Keep fighting those urges. As for thinking about the wins a few weeks ago I had made £3000 from a £400 outlay. Two days later I was £600 down. We cannot win because we cannot stop. No amount of money is ever enough.

Best wishes

Dave