Hi
I am a non religious person, if I can find a healthy recovery any one can.
For me recovery was far more than just abstaining, recovery was about healing the pains of my hurt inner child.
The word recovery for me means healing and finding a much healthier life with out unhealthly addictions and unhealthly obsessions.
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Recovery was my healthy path to finding a much healthier life with out my unhealthy addictions and my unhealthy obsessions.
The gambling and obsessions was a form of escape for me.
Once I got serious about my recovery I started to understand what my emotional triggers were.
Pains that were not healed.
Fears that I could not face reduce or understand.
My frustrations were due to my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations.
My feeling lonely was due to my fears of emotional intimacy.
And my boredom was very much due to my not being productive in every avenue f my life.
For me recovery means a healing process.
In my child hood I expereinced so many forms of abuse and often people would often transfer their pains fears and frustratins on tome.
After over 50 years of going to recovery meetings I got to understand that before my recovery I was a very unhealthy person.
My anger was an unhealthy reaction to pains fears and frustrations.
My anger could be expresssed in an agressive way or some times I would suppress my feelings and emotions.
My unhealthy reactions only indicated how hurt my inner child was.
The feelings of guilt shame regret only indicated that I had a very healthy conscience.
The feelings of guilt shame regret indicated that I was not healing my pains and it was unhealthy for me to beat my self up.
Why were therapies so very important to my recovery.
All the honest therapies was a kind of honesty I would learn from, from myu self and from other people.
Being such an unhealthy person I use to react in some very nhelthy ways.
The reason I lied was because the hurt inner child in me did not want for me to be hurt again.
As I healed and worked my recovery my fears reduced and my trust grew.
How often are people are reluctant to ask for help or use the telephone list.
How often do people think that using the telphone list is a sign of weakness.
Not so the exact opposite, using the telphone list is a sign of strength and epressess self worth.
In time I learned to be patient about my healing my pains.
The simple truth is that healing taking time.
Money is no longer an emotional trigger for me.
It is funny I some times for get that I do not have any money on me.
I use to drive my car on fumes, now I filll up petrol tank once it goes below half a tank.
I use to fear being honest now being honest shows that I no longer live in fear.
I use to filled with fear over every Xmas, once I understood that I was stressing my self out.
Showing appreciation and gratitude is an expression of my healthy values.
I also understand that my expression of appreciation and gratitude gernerates lots of emotional intimacy even from complete strangers.
I use to try and get things for nothing or cheap, I even use to dumpster dive when ever I could, some might say I was a very mean cheap person.
It just indicated how little I valued my self.
Writing down my needs my wants and my goals helps me get motivated in healthy ways.
I use to say all of the time I have to, that indicated that I did most things resentfully reluctantly or obsessively.
What is the point of doing nearly all things resentfully reluctantly or obsessively, by doing things for unhealthy reasons I get no satisfaction from doing things.
I often ask people how to do certin jobs I am not sure of.
It is important to become self sufficient and learn more healthy skills.
In time in understanding my unhealthy reactions to people life and situations I make much healthier interactions.
Living in fear and being a loner just indicated the pains that were not being healed.
Being in a healthy rooom with healthy people helps me live a life being at peace with my self.
Love and peace to every one.
Dave L
Dave of Beckenham
Hi
I am a non religious person, if I can find a healthy recovery any one can.
For me recovery was far more than just abstaining, recovery was about healing the pains of my hurt inner child.
The word recovery for me means healing and finding a much healthier life with out unhealthly addictions and unhealthly obsessions.
Â
Recovery was my healthy path to finding a much healthier life with out my unhealthy addictions and my unhealthy obsessions.The gambling and obsessions was a form of escape for me.
Once I got serious about my recovery I started to understand what my emotional triggers were.Pains that were not healed.
Fears that I could not face reduce or understand.
My frustrations were due to my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations.
My feeling lonely was due to my fears of emotional intimacy.
And my boredom was very much due to my not being productive in every avenue f my life.
For me recovery means a healing process.
In my child hood I expereinced so many forms of abuse and often people would often transfer their pains fears and frustratins on tome.
After over 50 years of going to recovery meetings I got to understand that before my recovery I was a very unhealthy person.
My anger was an unhealthy reaction to pains fears and frustrations.
My anger could be expresssed in an agressive way or some times I would suppress my feelings and emotions.
My unhealthy reactions only indicated how hurt my inner child was.
The feelings of guilt shame regret only indicated that I had a very healthy conscience.
The feelings of guilt shame regret indicated that I was not healing my pains and it was unhealthy for me to beat my self up.
Why were therapies so very important to my recovery.
All the honest therapies was a kind of honesty I would learn from, from myu self and from other people.
Being such an unhealthy person I use to react in some very nhelthy ways.
The reason I lied was because the hurt inner child in me did not want for me to be hurt again.
As I healed and worked my recovery my fears reduced and my trust grew.
How often are people are reluctant to ask for help or use the telephone list.
How often do people think that using the telphone list is a sign of weakness.
Not so the exact opposite, using the telphone list is a sign of strength and epressess self worth.
In time I learned to be patient about my healing my pains.
The simple truth is that healing taking time.
Money is no longer an emotional trigger for me.
It is funny I some times for get that I do not have any money on me.
I use to drive my car on fumes, now I filll up petrol tank once it goes below half a tank.
I use to fear being honest now being honest shows that I no longer live in fear.
I use to filled with fear over every Xmas, once I understood that I was stressing my self out.
Showing appreciation and gratitude is an expression of my healthy values.
I also understand that my expression of appreciation and gratitude gernerates lots of emotional intimacy even from complete strangers.
I use to try and get things for nothing or cheap, I even use to dumpster dive when ever I could, some might say I was a very mean cheap person.
It just indicated how little I valued my self.
Writing down my needs my wants and my goals helps me get motivated in healthy ways.
I use to say all of the time I have to, that indicated that I did most things resentfully reluctantly or obsessively.
What is the point of doing nearly all things resentfully reluctantly or obsessively, by doing things for unhealthy reasons I get no satisfaction from doing things.
I often ask people how to do certin jobs I am not sure of.
It is important to become self sufficient and learn more healthy skills.
In time in understanding my unhealthy reactions to people life and situations I make much healthier interactions.
Living in fear and being a loner just indicated the pains that were not being healed.
Being in a healthy rooom with healthy people helps me live a life being at peace with my self.
Love and peace to every one.
Dave L
Dave of Beckenham
Hey Dave,
Thanks for sharing your journey – it's truly inspiring! Your honesty about recovery and healing is refreshing. It takes a lot of courage to confront and overcome the challenges you've faced. Your insights about emotional triggers, fears, and the healing process resonate with many, glad to hear that therapies played a crucial role in your recovery, and it's great that you emphasize the strength in asking for help. Your transformation from a place of fear to one of peace and self-worth is remarkable.
Wishing you continued love, peace, and fulfillment on your journey!
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