Help!!!!

Hi addict65 you have to be completely honest. The money's gone. Gamstop is the new way to block online sites. Find a GA meeting, show your partner that you have every intention in stopping. Do it now before you create debt.

Well done Addict65 on recognising you are addicted to gambling and wish to stop it. Telling your husband half truths is most likely the addiction talking and is probably not a good idea.

While there is money still left than the addiction will want it all plus anything else you can beg,steal or borrow. It won't want to release it's grip on you and might even try to destroy you completely.

What's done is done and can't be undone. You recognise that your actions have been a big mistake but you didn't set out with the intention of gambling away the money. You have just been drawn in by the lure of gambling as is the case with all of us. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Wishing you every happiness on your gamble free adventure...stephen

Thank you both for your response and words of encouragement. This is not my first time gambling about 10 years ago I owned my house outright and had to sell it to pay my debts, you really would think I'd learnt my lesson but now I've done it again. I knew what I'd do even before I received the money but thought I could handle it and just have a couple of hundred on the slots.....BIG MISTAKE as I have no self control and then I began chasing money and making bigger deposits and using bigger bets to the point where I was being contacted daily by these sites asking where the money had come from etc yet that still didn't stop me and now it gone. Last time I told nobody but this time I've had to face it head on. Writing this I can't quite believe what I've done but if I had the money again I know the addict in me would do the same thing again. I feel a total failure that I had no self control

Hey 65
And welcome...well done on coming here....first things first..
PROTECT the money left..
Ring the bank and cancel cards linked to it...you only have to say you've lost them...so no big deal in that...order new ones and get hubby to retain them...hand over all access to it....or it will be gone love....you're addiction all see to that....you know it will convince you that it can all be won back...
You also know it CANT. ...ring the helpline here to go over the things you can do to fight you're addiction ......the money you've spent has gone.....You have to accept that. ....but protect the rest.....if you don't love...you know it will be gone as well. ...and then what ?
Only even more heartache...
Sorry if it all sounds harsh love. ..
But .....pleaseeeee don't let you're addiction take anymore from you
Make those calls x

I've still not been honest with my partner, my need to keep this all a secret is still profound. I've admitted just the basics but I have to tell him there's only 1k left not 5k. I feel sick constantly and feel the black hole swallowing me up. I'm afraid if he knows the full extent he will leave me or turf me out which is nothing less than I deserve but the thought of being homeless terrifies me. I know I have to be honest but I'm really struggling to do it and if I could just lay down and die I would. I just don't know what to do

HiSorry to hear about the situation, however the others are correct the money has gone (personal rock bottom) and honesty is the only way to start recovery. When my “outing” happened the pain and shame and humiliation was also tempered by the hope and release that telling every one had - no more secrets! Hopefully you will find the strength to tell your partner, what will be will be, however keeping secrets will let the addiction grow inside. Keep posting jappy

Hi jappy I'm digging deep to find the courage, I know I have to do it soon before I loose my mind, I keep trying to find the right moment but there never will be one but my nerves are off the scale and I'm on the verge of collapse with it all

I still can't be honest and tell him, when I think of the hurt disappointment, anger and disgust I will see in his eyes I back down. I keep coming so close but as well as an addict I'm a coward. I do wonder what's holding me back and think it's the secretive addict in me and the fear of him leaving me

Hi, when i gambled a lot of my inheritance , i could not bare to live with the lie and in the end it’s gonna come out anyway, just prolonging the agony makes it worse, i knew what I’d done and i new i was gonna tell her, i had to regardless of the consequences, to live the lie could not be done, it will kill ya, only to come out in the end. There is never a good moment to do this. But i had to admit it for all our sakes. You know what you are going to do. For gods sake don’t try and win it back, cos you won’t. Guard Up Bobbyj / Rainman

26 days gf until yesterday, i gambled the small amount of money I had left along with my £1700 overdraft and now I'm in deep trouble. I don't know what spurs me on, it's a compulsion I can't control and while I'm doing it I just don't care about anything. I am trying to figure out what drives me to do it as all I'm ever left with is self loathing and fear. So I have self excluded from yet another site and registered with gamstop but via email as for some reason they can't verify me at this address. So I start again. I am a compulsive gambler and this is day 1 of my gamble free future.

Hi Addict,

I have read your diary and I just want to send you some love and support. What is spurring you on is your addiction - all of us have been in your shoes, it’s a pure gut wrenching sick living hell....the financial devastation varies between us but let’s face it we all come here when we have suffered losses, never when we are on a winning streak ! I’m not going to preach to you as I had to come clean because I was ‘caught’ out - reflecting on my big mistake i am advising you, I should have come clean and took responsibility for my actions long long ago ...I’ve probably lost more respect doing things my way than I ever could have imagined. It’s really not going to be easy sitting down with your other half but you have to - sums of money like that you simply cannot hide from. Please seek help from GA, if your addiction is online (like mine) get signed up to Gamstop for 5 years, it really works and has saved me from relapsing many times and my god I have tried !

Good luck and keep posting - you are not alone here xxx

barney2909 wrote:

Hi Addict,

I have read your diary and I just want to send you some love and support. What is spurring you on is your addiction - all of us have been in your shoes, it’s a pure gut wrenching sick living hell....the financial devastation varies between us but let’s face it we all come here when we have suffered losses, never when we are on a winning streak ! We all eventually find our ‘rock bottom’ I’m not going to preach to you as I had to come clean because I was ‘caught’ out - reflecting on my big mistake i am advising you, I should have come clean and took responsibility for my actions long long ago ...I’ve probably lost more respect doing things my way than I ever could have imagined. It’s really not going to be easy sitting down with your other half but you have to - sums of money like that you simply cannot hide from. Please seek help from GA, if your addiction is online (like mine) get signed up to Gamstop for 5 years, it really works and has saved me from relapsing many times and my god I have tried !

Good luck and keep posting - you are not alone here xxx

I’m sorry ! I saw a spelling mistake and clicked quote instead of edit !!

🙂 xx

He's going to find out. That's a given. Telling him means you're in control of how it happens and limits your ability to gamble in secret. Yes, there are going to be bruising conversations and home truths but surely getting it out in the open is better than being caught in the cycle of feeling the way you are right now.