Where do I start I starting gambling at 17 went on a roulette wheel with a small amount and won a lot it got me hooked strait away after that I couldn't stop I started to bet on everything I've tried stopping many times including ga trying to stop myself just nothing seems to work and I end up back in action ruining my life my life is great I stopped gambling in last year and did a few month in that time I started my own business which as took off massively under the stress I started having a bet again just on sports via a WhatsApp betting company where now I'm just spending every spare penny I have on it I hate my self for it my kids see my mood swings and I need to stop before it's to late I wish I could just switch a button to stop but I know the hard work needed I just need a break from worrying about gambling and try to live normal thanks for reading
Best expression for that is if you say you can or you cant you are right in both. It is what we choose that becomes defining for what is going to happen. Look most people including my self have a hard time to see through the haze we have walked ourselves into.
Have you asked yourself why? What you are gambling for? What are you escaping to bring you there? You need to start a conversation with your mind. What are you doing there and what does it solve? Right now your reward system. The thing in your mind that is keeping you motivated to do things and making you feel good has hijacked everything which is rational and that is kicking you off to do more gambling. This demands a whole new look at your life and a deeper understanding so you can cope with things. It is not black and white you can not turn it off or on at will, you need to do a number of things to turn the ship inn the right direction.
First identify why. Then work on how can you start doing other things Then do the when you are going to do it. You have to make plans to get better and those plans include taking breaks from gambling (normally 6 weeks to balance those chemicals in your brain)and getting help to start thinking differently.
It is doable but you need to become a stubborn... and never give up regardless of what comes at you.
Start by talking to the admin here and get some direction.
I wish you well!
Best
C
Hi
In my recovery I got to understand my emotional triggers, pains I could not heal, fears I could not face, frustrations due to my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations, loneliness, and boredom.
I got to understand my anger was an unhealthy reaction to pains I could not heal, fears I could not face, frustrations due to my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations.
When do you start to peel back the onion and expose the hurt inner child in you?
How much time and effort am I willing to invest in to myself and being in my recovery.
So, once I handed over the money and finances, I felt emotionally vulnerable, the simple fact that handing money and finances over I was being punished and treated like a little child.
Yet after some time I got over those feelings.
The money was just the fuel for my addictions.
At what point would I learn to love myself.
At what point would I learn to not live in fear.
At what point would I learn to stop hurting myself.
Love healing and peace to everyone.
Dave L
AKA Dave Of Beckenham UK
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