dont know where to start really
about a year ago life became to much for me the debts were getting bigger and my wonderful wife was wanting to see my bank account but i could not show her i was sacred and worried i had fallen into a hole that i could not get out. so i took a overdose of pain killers it was the cowards way of telling my wife the prombles i had. i think about it every day they way i told my wife and it makes me ashamed.
i will skip the hopsital bit .
so after leaving the hopspital the next day we went thorough the bills and all the moines owed i rang the cc companys and had fees stoped and all the other stuff. then came the repayments . there was no way i could afford to pay it all back it would have been about 400 quid a month so i asked my dad to pay it back and he did but im paying 250 pounds a month for the next 3 years with added lumpsum payments on top of that.
i started to go to ga meetings got on the 12 steps programme
i even told a few workmates about my promblems . one even told me he was also addticted to gambling so i took him out for a pint and a chat i was suppose to be at a meeting that night but this seem to be more pressing matter. the thing was the more a talked to him about the ga meetings and what happens the more i reliesd i did not enjoy going. so i stoped thinking a could talk to my wife or my workmate, but i was wrong.
fast forward a year the gambling as not stoped, its not as bad but i still cant shake it and i want to stop.
so tonight im telling my wife everything and i will keep you up todate with how it goes
feel free to ask me anyting
lloyd
also i a food addiction as well
Good honest post my friend !. Certainly a good thing coming clean with your partner, I hope that goes well for you , she proberbly has an idea that your gambling again anyway ? . I dont think us compulsive gamblers are good at controlling mood swings for one thing , maybe we can juggle our finances to make it look as though were ok but we sometimes cant hide the true way we feel inside?.
If you dont like the GA side of things , maybe some one to one counciling sessions via gamcare could be the answer for a start or at least have a chat with them to discuss your options ?.
I think we all need some sort of support whichever way you choose to do it , this site suits me just fine as I get to talk through issues with others who are like minded, some days I have a right old whinge and other days I choose just to read the posts of others , and Its definately working for me , 76 days since I last gambled and am feeling great about life once more .
All the best for now buddy , keep strong and keep posting !! .................................Alan
All the best to you and hope tonight goes as smoothly as possible for you.
Hi Lloyd,
Welcome to the forum;))
Your first post ihas already come across as positive as it was so honest.well done for coming here and opening up:))
Sending you strong and positive thoughts for tonight.
Best wishes
Suzanne X
Thanks for all the support just waiting for the wife to get in from xmas shopping. Getting nervous know
Best thing I ever did was tell my partner. It's only been a week for me but its removed a huge weight off my shoulders. Hope it goes well 🙂
It wasn't as bad as I thought the positive thing was that I was honest with her. She wants to help me which is good done the usual bits like gone through bank statements and handed over my bank card gonna block the gaming sites on the web this week. Looks like it's last chance saloon, and I got to wear my themals as its going to be frosty in bed tonight . But things are on the up
Hi Lloyd, welcome to recovery 🙂
Wanting to stop & having to are very different & it is that want that you will need to make it different this time! Just like there are a whole host of options for you, please let your wife know that there is help out there for her too (Gamcare, counselling or friends & family here & Gamanon if she rather group support)!
Get your gambling triangle broken for sure but don't leave the cause untreated & if the debts are unmanageable why not speak to Gamcare about some of the agencies that can give you some advice in this area!
Well done for coming clean! Time to dig in & fight now - ODAAT
Hi Lloyd, Big well done on coming clean fella, it takes some courage as you never know which way its gonna go and although its frosty in bed , its a lot colder in the spare room ?.
Get those important blocks in place sooner than later buddy , that takes them out of the equation and keeps your triangle broken !.
Well done on your honesty my friend and as you said " Last chance saloon " . Best wishes ................Alan
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