Hi Alan,
Sometimes a break from here is needed and only you can make that decision if necessary.
Whatever you do just popping in to send best wishes.
B x
Clear your head if that's what's best for you Alan....
We will always come across people who can't be helped in life...people who can't get a grip on there own issues are usually the ones who try to put others down...anyhow. ...you do what you got to do....but don't be long...life's to short. ....and I'm worried it will be f*****g boring without you !
Cheers Deano , B and Loxxie , I'm not off I'm just gonna have a week to myself I think , it's crazy when you think your tryin to help and it causes a Shi.te storm in cyberspace ? I've really not been sleeping well the last few days and I think its this thats doing it really with an added touch of major hip pain thrown in for good measure LOL ! .
I've done it to myself really and tbh thought I'd got past all that blown out of all preportion argument stuff but obviously not , trouble is like some I wont just walk away from it , if people like Joan and Dragonfly and today paul don't come to your diary and say how they truelly feel how do you ever know ?? Maybe the honesty is still lacking ? as in our life as CG's we became good at not telling the truth ??.
Off for a Curry now and how ever much it makes me s***t in the morning can't be as bad as the shi'te Iv'e had on here :((
See's you all in a while , look after each other xx :))
Hi Alan,
Thank you for the supportive messages you posted on my thread. Read some of your diary. Wow you have come so far. Belated congrats on hitting that year milestone. You honestly are an inspiration. Looking at all the comments you get and the obvious friends you have made are testament to that.
Thank you for sharing your amazing journey so far and long may it continue.
- kIbble
A bit of head space is sometimes needed, it certainly did me the world of good. But, at the end of the day I am who I am, and you are who you are. Most people don't want you to change, rightly so. FB is no holds barred, you can rant to your hearts content in the group (I wouldn't suggest it on your wall though!) Looking forward to seeing you on the other side Sir'Alan.
Twinks xx
Alan you know who and what you are just keep being you. They will always be personality clashes on here. This should have been done and dusted days ago. Take a breather and move on.
KTF
Alan
You were the first person to welcome our family to this site earlier in the year and we are grateful for your input and advice on that day and would like to let you know that things are progressing well at the moment. I think it is really important that those in recovery are encouraged to share their experiences in order not only to help themselves but to help someone else recover as well and I can see that is your aim. As parent of a gambler I have posted on here quite a bit now and no doubt there are people who think "oh, no here comes gamparent rambling on again" - you can't please all the people all the time - but I will battle on in my quest to help save another young person from ruining their life and ruining their families with the lure of all gambling methods. I have noticed that the majority on here seem to respect your opionions, advice and help - the critical ones are in the minority and maybe it is best to agree to disagree with them and leave it at that. I have seen first hand the dark side of this problem and how sensitive it makes people - but it is a shame when things flare up on here when newbies are looking in and you and I and others and Forum are working hard to encourage them on to the site. You have come this far in recovery and you should be proud of that and proud of how many people you have probably helped on here. Maybe a little breather will be good but really hope you will be back.
Evening booty....
I know your sat at home chilling or bogged down in cooking oil......taking a wee break from here.. but just thought id say hi....
So..." HI"
: )
Hey Alan, just wanted to say thanks for the drop by, it was very much appreciated, sorry it's taken so long to reply. Hope all is well with you....and it doesn't do any harm to have a break from here as and when you need it 🙂
Alright babe
I think you've had long enough now. Unless your having those hips replaced I would like to see an update sometime soon.
Hope you're well
Xx
Quite agree deanooos
We've got a camping trip to plan alan. ....
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I'll cancel the private detective I have scouring chip shops in pompey then. Glad your OK anyway I know it's getting cold and you have to look after you old ens when the winter comes.
Just to cheer you up think of those winter heating allowances about to drop in your account soon lol.
Xx
Afternoon diary , Bit of a while since I've had a catch up simply because life's got in the way a little .
So a few weeks ago happened to notice £ 1200 had gone into my account :)) I did wonder from where but soon realised it was a payment from my pet insurer reimbursing me for the operation my dog had a few months ago ,at one point they'd flatly refused to pay out on the grounds of it being a related condition to the other leg she'd had operated on , in my gambling days I'd have probably not bothered chasing them too much as it would have eaten into my valuable gambling time and my gamblers brain would have no doubt told me that I could easily win that back on a Fobt machine but of course now I have all the time in the world to take on companies and not accept their cop out clauses , so after words with my vet and a folllow up letter and me threatening to take them to the insurance ombudsmen, they paid up with an apology for the inconvenience :)) .
My son who's on his way back to uni this weekend had a meeting with his mum this week , it's the first time they've spoken or seen each other in about 4 yrs , It was his decision to meet up and I knew he was thinking of it as he'd mentioned her a few times since his sisters wedding back in early August to which she wasn't invited , my daughters pretty much drawn a line under it all and moved on but as my son was 13 when she went ,he had a lot of questions that as far as he was concerned went unanswered , so it was his chance to ask what he needed to know .
He spoke to me on his return and felt that although it went ok , Her addiction was in full swing and she was still in denial about the reasons she left and hasn't been in contact with him but I think it gave him a bit of piece of mind that although she wasn't in a great place she was at least ok , I'm not sure if he'll continue to see her as he's left it by saying he was going back to uni for a few months and would speak to her later . It felt a bit uncomfortable for me to be honest as I've brought him up on my own since she left and feel very protective towards him and I know what she's capable of but I'll just sit back and let it all unfold and be there to gather the pieces if need be .
Glad to see my old buddy Martin ( Oldham ) reach his first year gamble free , we started here within two weeks of each other and it's been an honor to have been along for the ride with him , he's come so far and turned so much around and deserves all the good things that life now gifts him :))
Thanks to all that left messages for me before my little break it was really kind and sorry for not getting back to some , truth is I'm struggling to find time to post these day's I'm all back on track enjoying life since I stopped gambling and taking the benefits since doing so , I'm also absolutely racked with pain at the moment and really struggle for the first couple of hours in the morning and it doesn't get much better during the day , the cortizone Injections I had back in August haven't really worked this time and instead of 8 to 12 months of being relatively pain free I've only managed a few weeks this time , my hips are knackered and I've been back onto my consultant who's ok'd the op but I'm now waiting for a date , it's all leaving me really tired as I'm on a constant stream of painkillers which help but not enough .
I'm still about checking on here making sure all the posse are doing well and not misbehaving in any way ( something I've never done of course ) and can see that most are doing just fine and keep on offering support to one another and all the newcomers that find their way here but I'm just not feeling able to post at the moment simply because of the above reasons , hopefully it wont be too long before I get some new bionic hip's and will have a few months off to catch up with everyone , I mentioned to my partner the other day that It would mean no nookie for 6 to 8 weeks after the op !! Her reply " Well it's you that's having the op " :(( She makes me laugh and keeps me in my place !! .
Wishing you all well in your continued recoveries, love and best wishes .
Alan xx
Good to see you still around Harold thought you might of done one at one point.
Apparently wd40 is good for bad joints? Have a good one and don't be a stranger
I miss the bad joke
Xx
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