Quitting

Hang in there fellow recoverer at arms. Stopping gambling can get tricky at times. Good on you for stopping and taking the weekend to chill out. Hope you enjoy it. Tri

Hi Diary, it's been a traumatic week-end of discussion and thought, mainly centreing about going forward from the mess of my life that I have made. Support was there, but after all it's my problem. Dont want to expand to-day too much, too tired. Suffice to say the gambling demon in my head has gone to replaced by utter negativity and depression. - Gambler Toad was correct, so far my recovery is of a negative state, catch u tomorrow, diary and fellow sufferer's - Paul

Keep fighting Paul. Remember the reasons that you 1st came on here, and remind yourself of them regularly.

Try not to think so long term, your life is not always going to be a mess, and each day away from gambling will slowly improve your outlook.

If you are anything like me, just waking up every morning in the beginning without the massive sense of guilt and worthlessness is something to cling on to.

Stay strong

Russ

No bud nothing you or anyone has done wrong I've just not watched the latest game of thrones so didn't want to spoil it by stumbling across a comment telling what has happened.

hello diary, end of another day in this poor world, depressive start hey, well if you felt like i do you would only describe it as depressing. the money's gone, it ain't coming back, the only way to communicate with like minded cg sufferers is through some cyberspace web-site set up by the gambling industry as a sop to people like me, who do not like losing money and so therefore lose more money to attempt to get back the money they are losing. I guess you can see i am bitter (no embracing recovery yet hey), no i hate what was put in front of me and offered and i hate my weakness for accepting the temptation. I will never forgive myself or the gambling industry for the destruction that has been reaped upon my life. This is a rant and i'm off to bed in a foul mood. Goodnight

Guys I'm very new to nice and sadly have only sucked up the guts to actually talk about my problem. It's funny because I was in so much denial to the problem I have. The funny thing is il probably get over this depressive feeling in two days , but I don't want too. I want to remember the fact I feel this s**t every time I gamble in any sort of way. I really appreciate the fact that anyone on here has the ability to openly express and communicate about their problem and I want to be a part of This. The only thing I'm wishing for is to stop and get over the horrible temptation and curiousty into wanting to gamble again.

Paul, you need to figure out a way forwards now...Keep harping on about the lost money is not helping! You have plenty to be greatful for in as much that you aren't in debt & embracing recovery (putting all of your energy into it) now will enable you to enjoy your future!

& as for cyberspace being the only way to communicate, you know that is rubbish...There are GA rooms up & down the Country for us to hook up face to face & you would do well to get yourself to one!

You can move forwards but only when you accept that you move forwards broke! You don't need to look far to see, it's better to be broke & in recovery than broke & active. Come on, draw that line & start living again - ODAAT

What's actually stopping you from going to GA? The addiction telling you what you want to hear eg that you don't need it / it's too much trouble / it won't help / it's not for you?

It's easy enough to complain, no dispute that you have something to complain about. But actions speak louder than words. It's what you do to help yourself that will change things for you.

Finally, I am no expert but it seems to me that gambling and depression each have their separate solutions, perhaps you need both? Medical treatment may help depression but there are no pills to take for gambling. Similarly if there is a medical cause for the depression, meetings and barriers won't address it.

BW,

CW

Hi ODAAT, and cynical wife, thanks for your support, I have to say it means a lot when you are going through the effects of a gambling addication, that someone will try to help you and offer a positive re-action to counter your negative thoughts. I really appreciate both your input. I have made it to work again, but will probably spend most of the day reading on here, trying to move forward with my life - Thank-you

Hi Hope you don't mind commenting this here, but I am new to forums, and don't know how to start a new thread. Any help appreciated. Thanks.

Hi Angel, lots of help on this site, read a lot, some great really great posts, real top insights into gambling issues. On a debt point, step change seem to be the place to go. For quitting gambling, don't think it will be easy because it will not be, the individual gambling has to want to stop, and really want that goal, a few posts and read's on here will not be enough, take it from me a gamblers rock bottom (the end of gambling) can be a lot lower down on the financial scale that many people would deem appropriate. To shock you people lose hundreds of thousands before they will stop. In most cases it is because they want back what they originally had. I lost these sort of amounts, in my fridge to-day I have a pint of milk, a tub of margerine, two tomatoes and a 2 inch square piece of cheese. That's where gambling can take you.

Hi all, firstly want to say no gambling has taken place, I have thought about it, but I then went onto read gambling horror stories UK, and that really shakes you up. I read about a guy who de-frauded a company he was working for by raising false invoices to gain funds to fund his addication, all the time his family were not aware of his addication, he re-mortgaged the house, got into masses of debt, and went to jail. That really shakes you up, I certainly don't want that outcome, and I am carrying his name and the position he got himself into by not stopping, in my head night and day. I have stopped only 9 days, but the seeds of stopping have been planted for several years now. I know what I should have been doing, and that is letting the losses go, no matter how huge they are. My own house (no matter how small) and no debt is much much better that what happened to that poor yorkshireman. Iv'e quit, and I am going to stay a quitter. - Paul

Hi Paul

What about ODAAT and CW'S points they made? At some point you need to forgive yourself.

At some point you need to stop wallowing in your own self-pity and start doing something about it.

Time for some committed action to help yourself get better. GA, therapy, start doing things which are important to you - friends, family, health, self development. GA, GA

Best wishes
Louis

Hi Diary, and fellow gamcare readers and posters, have been reading a lot on here and thinking a lot about gambling, and the after effects. It is certain that you have to reach rock bottom with your finances before you will stop - the fear factor has to kick in, whatever level that is. I know i have reached that, thank goodness, it's taken so long to re-alise that you can't win with this addication. If you are posting on here and you are not a relative of a cg, you have a problem. The fellow sufferer's on here like Day@Time, Oldham, Alan etc have got the disease sorted, they know how to control it, listen to them their posts are invaluable. For me I am learning, how not to gamble, I am in the early stages or recovery, I can't wait for the nagging unhappiness to leave its place behind my eyes. Enjoy your week-end, everyone

My many thanks for your post, , from reading your diary and I can confirm that things WILL get BETTER , it may take a wee while but it will happen. Try not to get too far ahead of yourself, and losses do hurt, but time is a great healer. The 2 ish years i had gamble free were a blessing and i finally started to live rather than exist. Keep posting and maybe its time to organise some counselling, it def helped me.