Alright Nath,
Good to hear that things are going well. I've watched one and a half episodes of the Enfield haunting, been meaning to watch the rest, any good? With football, I love it, but only watching my team really, I know lots of people who like watching football generally and I only do if it affects my team. I would bet on the outcomes of other teams just so I had interest in them and quite frankly I'm quite happy that by not having a bet on them anymore and therefore not being interested. Which I guess is a bit synical, but quite glad that I'm not going to be immersed in the number of games anymore and therefore quite happy to watch TV shows with my fiancГ©e. Not that I wasn't before, but just feels like a bit of a release, not sure how you feel about all of the football betting etc. In terms of triggers response to your ante-post bets, completely valid points and probably a better course of action than what I suggested. I guess that you probably feel that you haven't put any more money on but it's still sort of feeding the idea that you have a bet running. Either way, whatever you do, I hope you don't continue betting thereafter. If you win and you claim the money, pay to get Netflix and maybe have a few more evenings watching some TV shows with the misses, will take you're mind off of the gambling etc. Keep up the good work fella, Jez
Yesterday was the easiest so far, with not even a slight desire to have a bet.
I've decided to turn the fact that I'm surrounded by punters all day at work into a positive, rather than being drawn in by people winning I should focus on those that are losing and how it is effecting them mentally and financially. These guys are betting all day everyday and to think that I used to need the same thing just to get me through the day seems laughable now.
Taking on people's advice regarding the ante post situation I've decided to just let them be. If they win then great, the money will come out (the account is already SE so just have to call for them to withdraw the money) and il pay off my car insurance, if they lose then I'm still in a positive situation as I won't be betting/chasing as I would previously.
Jez - good idea about the box sets, I think I'm going to start breaking bad soon as that has loads of episodes. Also, The Enfield Haunting is well with finishing!
Wishing everyone well
Nath
Definitely in the same position with you with regards to the punters. The ones that lose obviously help when not wanting to gamble, not that I want people to lose but you just realise what you are like when you are gambling. And even the ones that are winning, they just return anyway, and even if they continue winning, they are encompassed by the gambling. Plus the time they put into it, you think is it worth it, that time could be better spent elsewhere. So on both sides of the coin it does help.
Breaking bad is brilliant, I've only just finished watching it. You will have many hours of interest there. It starts off a bit slow in the first series but what's good about it is that it is different so persevere with it, and then you'll be hooked, it's quality. I shall finished the Enfield haunting in due course. All the best fella! Jez
Plus I think the positive thinking is a help. I think that whenever anything bad is happening or urges come into play, it's probably best to accept them but use the experience in a positive way. In the same sense if something bad happens, instead of turning to gambling, accept that it's happened and be positive that things will get better kind of thing. Obviously nothing bad is happening now but in the eventuality because I have read on people's posts when they've had a bad day that they've turned back to gambling. Easier said than done to see things in a positive light I guess, and I'm not naive that if something bad did happen, how I would react but either way, good to bear in mind to be positive and it's good that you are being so and using working in the bookies as a positive, Jez
Alright Nath, any news? Hope all is going well fella. Keep the faith, Jez
Jez89 wrote:
Alright Nath, any news? Hope all is going well fella. Keep the faith, Jez
Hi mate,
All going well still thanks, not had time to post lately because of for ect but have been logging on the follow the progress of yourself and others.
I've felt fine without gambling this whole time, mainly through distraction as I've found myself with the healthier obsession of going to the gym.
Through stopping gambling I feel really determined to sort other areas of my life out, at the forefront of that is my health!
The addictive side of my personality is a positive in terms of going to the gym... As the missus said as I walked through the door with 32 cans of tuna and a shed load of supplements "you don't do things by halves do you!!"
Despite the above I really had an itch to get a bet on earlier this evening... Thursday's are always my binge day in terms of betting with the super league and darts always on... Found myself looking at account opening offers rather shamefully however I feel like I have passed my first proper test by coming on here and browsing through other peoples posts to help me realise what it's like to start from scratch... Glad to say that I won't be feeling guilty over any lapses tonight or tomorrow.
Apologies for rambling on, not even sure if I'm making sense but as long as I'm not punting, who cares! Haha
Wishing everyone well, one day at a time
Alright mate,
Don't worry about rambling, I do it all of the time. Glad you didn't bet, I guess if every time you feel like betting, it's best to come on here and remind yourself not to do it. I think say in a couple of years time I could think to myself, 'I'm all sorted, I can have a punt for old times sake' and think that there will be no issue. That may happen, and I may not have an issue. But I guess a life's a long time and to be honest, I don't want to be embroiled in it anymore and I can't be bothered with caring about whether I'm up or down as what does it matter? I won't feel successful because of it, granted I may get a high, but it won't be worth the lows so I hope I can stick to it. As I hope you do to.
Fair play with the healthy living. I try to stick to it but find it hard lol. I can exercise here and there and eat ok but yeah I don't think I'll ever be very fit.
Keep at it fella, Jez
Back on here after what has probably been a couple of months of relapse. Not sure what happened, maybe the football season starting again coupled with boredom at work?
Anyway, the issue and motivation remain the same, just need to swallow my pride and start again.
Nath
Hi Nath... you seem to be on a similar path to the one I've been on in the past. It's very difficult. A month or two or good action and then bam you just start punting again until the losses get too much and you need to stop again. You need to think really closely about it or this cycle will just continue and you'll be off and back on here in a few months. Good luck sir.
Forgot to update over the last few days. Thanks for your advice, change. No real urges to gamble although I do find myself thinking about it when watching sport on tv. Having this as the loading page on my phone helps a lot though. One step at a time I suppose, really hoping I kick it for good and see the rewards of a gamble free life in the near future.
Nath
Nice one Nath - how do you get this as the loading page?
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