Hi I am very much a non religious person.
I walked in to the recovery program havig lost all faith and hope in my self.
In time I got to thinking the recovery was abstaing from addictions and obsessions.
Then I got to understand that healing my inner child was what recovery was all about.
 Sadly healing my inner child was only going to heal after I had abstain from my unhealthy adddictions and abstained my unhealthy habits in to healthy habits.
Today I understand that by being consumed and escaping to my gambling I was in effect hurting my self more and more.
What is success, is about being rich, it is reading books or text, is it trying to get some thing for nothing or getting some thing cheap.
As I got more healthier sticking in to the recovery program IÂ got to understand that I had not fully reached my full pototential.
As I got to hear how other people became more successful, I got to understand that if they can be success so can I.
If I trully believe that we are all as equls in the recovery,if other people were able to achieve so can I.
I just sppend two days in a stroke and it was a veery scarey thing to happen.
I did not sleep very well.
 I got to confirm that the most important things in my life is intimaty with my family.
 I got to confirm that the most important things in my life is time we take it so much for granted and do not appreciate how it all can be gone in a few minutes.
I am now 31 years clean of gambling.
I am a very slow learner and took me over twenty years to learn fully what recocery is all about.
In the rooms of recovery I found that certain meetings were more willing to open up to therapies.
These open up therapies meetings were huge in my reducing my fears but helped excellerate my healing and my ability to articulate as to how emotionally vulnerable I use to be.
I relate that the recovery program is very much like about learning mountain.
In a healthy room we are linked by our therapies.
The longer in therapy the more aware we are by our own questions we find a much healthier succesful path by the rope of safety on our honesties and sharing.
This time in sharing opens up to some very healthy emotional intimacy with other like minded people.
On walking in to the recovery program I felt a complete failure and a reject.
I left school with no qualifications what so ever.
I took up electronics and radio and tele vision servicing.
I then took up many different jobs as a electronics field service engineer in many fields.
A man once said at a meeting, if the only thing I worry about in my life is money, then I do not have any problems what so ever.
Another man once said at a meeting, I am glad that I am a compulsive gambler.
If I did not have my addiction I would have never found out how very unhealthy I was.
Understanding our full potential takes time.
I use to escape to gambling due to my emotional triggers.
I use to react in so many unhealthy ways and even thought it was normal.
Most of my time is now all about having healthy interacts.
Being in the recovery program IÂ got to heal my pains.
Being in the recovery program IÂ got to reduce and face my fears.
Being in the recovery program IÂ got to reduce my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations.
Being in the recovery program IÂ got to reduce my fears of emotional intimacy.
Being in the recovery program IÂ got to write down my needs and I fulfilled them.
Being in the recovery program IÂ got to write down my wants and I fulfilled them.
Being in the recovery program IÂ got to write down my goals and I fulfilled them.
I am not the loner today.
I Can tell my wife and son how much I love them and how proud I am of them
My son is taller than me yet I still give him a big hug when I can.
The recovery program is therre to help us all.
How much do we value our llife today.
How much do we value our self today.
Are we able to love our self today.
Are we able to our self our self today.
All the time and effort I put in to my recovery program was a very healthy choice.
Love healing and peace to every.
AKA Dave of BeckenhamÂ
Thanks for sharing your recovery, Dave.
Your story is inspiring. It is wonderful to see how recovery allows you to deeply appreciate life, and to enjoy healthy emotional intimacy.
Keep on doing what you're doing,
Take care,
Adam.
I just sppend two days in a stroke and it was a veery scarey thing to happen.
I hope that you are getting all the care that you may need for your rehabilitation following the stroke.
Kind regards from all of the GamCare team, and good wishes for your health.
Take care,
Adam.
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Hi
By healing the hurt inner child in me.
By facing and reducing my fears I am abale to embrace healthy realtionship with my self and with other people.
I now know that living in my fears very much disabled me in so many ways.
For me successs is abaout my actions and my words being healthy in so many ways.
How much I healed that hurt inner child was all up to me.
Love healing and peace.
 Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham
Thank you for your sharing empathy and caring.
I have suffered in so many ways that recent events seem insufnicicent to me today.
The recovery program helps me understand that I was victamized as a young child but I was also a suvivor andf am today.
By our honesty our sharing and itnimacy the hurt inner child is healed and being abale to ahve a healthy voice based on peace with in.
Once we abstain from unhealthy habits we are able to exchange our unhealthy habits in to healthy habits.Â
By being linked by so many like minded peopple I know and feel that I am no longer alone living in my fears.
Thank you
Dave L
Thank you, your story inspires me to keep fighting and not give up. I tend to give up quickly. Your understanding that 'healing my inner child is what recovery means' has probably made me realize my mistake. I want to heal on my own, but it's probably unrealistic. I need to seek help from professionals. ❤️
@3t51rzil8g Hi
It was important to keep going to meetings and sharing my honesty with others.
Once my fears reduced I was then ready to talk to counsellors.
The recovery program encourages therapies and some might think that therapes are about blaming others.
For me the therapes help me have a honest voice and the pains start to come out which have not been healed.
In time I go to understand what my emotional triggers were.
My pains that were not healed.
My fears that I could not face or reduce.
My frsutrations due to my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations.
Loneliness due to my fearing emotional intimacy.
Boredome because I use to avoid facing my needs my wants and my goals.
The recovery program therapies lead to reduced fears, therapies lead to an increase in trust, and therapies lead to a healthy intimacy.
This healthy intimacy leads to us reducing our fears and being more open and honest.
I lied because I was so filled with fears.
Understanding how emotionally vulnerable I was and that my fears were so gret that I use yto go in to panick mode very quickly in the unhealthy times of my life.
This healthy intimacy leads healing our hurt inner child.
Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham
Hi
The wording keep fighting sounds like a battle you have with your self.
Just for today only I willl not gamble was for me a surrender which was so much easier.
For me inspirations came from people demonstrating to me nurturing encouragement of others.
To give up to procrastination I was cheating my self.
The therapies in the room lead to my reduced fears and more emotional intimacy.
Please do not give up your self so quickly.
For me healing on my own, was not possible.
Once we reduce our fears and trsuts grow we are ready for the professionals.
Thank you
Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham
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@3t51rzil8g Hi
Healing started in the meetings for me.
The more I opened up the less fear I had in my self.
Often I could not articulate what my feelings and my emotions were.
How could I explain how I survived the very unhealthy painful things that happened to me.
Once I opened up my fears reduced and other people could relate to me.
The pains in my life caused many fears in me that I did not understand.
The therapies lead to more confidence and far less fears.
Then in time I go to understand that I was a survivor after so long feeling like a victim.
By talking things out lead to healthy emotional intimacy with others in the room.
And in time healthy emotional intimacy lead to healing the hurt inner child in me.
Healing Love and peace to everyone.
Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham
@3t51rzil8g Hi
THank you for your sharing.
The question I was asked in my recovery.
How do you know you are ready to open up to counselling.
When you go to meetings and open up there emotionally.
By reducing your fears you are more open for counselling.
The important part of healing is the increasing emotional intimacy.
Dave L
Hi appreciating opens up so much more than you thought was possible.
While being consumed in Trauma you are not fully aware of much pain you are in.
Taken seriously recovery can change a persons life so much.
Thank you.
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