Aggresion rage and anger is a very unhealthy habit where people transfer their pains fears and frsutrations on to other people.

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gadaveuk
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Aggresion rage and anger is a very unhealthy habit where people transfer their pains fears and frsutrations on to other people.
Aggresion can be used to try and control other people to do things they do not want or need to do.
Sadly people who try to control other people indicates how inept and insecure they are.
By bullying other people they transfer their unhealed pains fears and frsutrations on to other people.
Aggresion and anger indicates that a person has been unable to heal the hurt inner child in them self.
Aggresion and anger indicates that a person has not healed the pains of their hurt inner child.
Aggresion and anger indicates that a person has not reduced or faced the fearss of their hurt inner child.
Aggresion and anger indicates that a person has not reduced their unreasonable expectations of people life and situations.
Pains and trauma earlier in our life cause fears we do not fully understand.
Often people who have suffered pains and trauma earlier in their life live in fears but also fear emotional intimacy.
Often people who have suffered pains and trauma earlier in their life take up very unhealthy addictions and often take up very unhealthy obsessions.
The very unhealthy addictions and very unhealthy obsessions only indicate that people have certain emotional triggers and that they are emotionally vulnerable.
Being emotionally vulnerable certainly does not mean that they are weak people, exactly the opposite often emotionally vulnerable are very stronger survivors and deep down are strong people.
The very unhealthy addictions and very unhealthy obsessions can be resolved by attending recovery meetings, some meetings push religion on people and some meetings will help people heal with out any religious beliefs.
People attending recovery meetings will often think that by a person abstaining is what recovery is all about.
For me abstaining was the way we find a path to healing our pains in our hurt inner child.
Some people will fear opening emotionally, because of fear and trust issues.
In over 50 years of my recovery there have been meetings where people have taken 4 - 6 months before they even opened up emotionally.
I use to travel past many meetings so I could find a very much therapy room and over time therapies opened up from me and fears reduced and trust issues reduced.
On first going to meeting I thought that I would be the very last person on this planet to just abstain from my unhealthy habits.
Sadly people think that if you are clean for any time and you go back to an addiction you have lost time.
The simple truth clean time is not lost, when we go back to our addictions of unhealthy habits we get to learn what our last emotional trigger was.
My emotional triggers were my pains I could not heal.
My emotional triggers were my fears I could not face or reduce.
My emotional triggers were my frsutrations due to my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations when tehy did not go my way.
My emotional triggers were my boredom because I could not be productive and get focused on my needs and my goals, procrastination really stunted me being productive.
My emotional triggers were my fear of emotional intimacy, unable to be my self or live my life with fears.
The recovery program would help me help my self become a much healthier peersaon.
The recovery program would help me interact with people rather than react in unhealthy ways.
The recovery program would help me exchange my unhealthy habits in to healthy habits.
At the start of my recovery one meeting per week was not enough for me.
Attending a much healthier therapy room helped me to be able to learn how to articulate what my feelins and emotions were.
By going to the recovery program was a lesson how to live a much healthy life.
I learned that the recovery program meant for me healing in healthy ways, to live my life with out any fears, to live my life with healthy intimacy with all people, to live my life being the healthiest person I can be today.
To live my life being the most healthiest person I can be today.
Love healing and  peace to every one.
Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham
 
Posted : 4th February 2024 2:29 am
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Dear gadaveuk, 

What powerful and detailed reflection on the topic of anger and recovery. 

Anger is an emotion that anyone can feel. Frustration is often the starting point for the feeling, a somewhat manageable level of feeling of being blocked or thwarted. Anger itself a want to control (as you describe) yourself, others or the world at large. Aggression is unfortunately where we may specifically direct this feeling at ourselves or others via words or actions driven by anger.

As you insightfully clarify the underneath of this is usually a past hurt or unfulfilled basic need that would benefit from being addressed. I would imagine you are much better able to manage situations now with your knowledge and experience. I really like your aim to live your life "being the healthiest person I can be today"!

Best Wishes,

Louise

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Posted : 20th February 2024 11:36 am

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