For me being angry is a very unhealthy reaction to my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations.
By getting frustrated people were not hurting me I was hurting my self.
By being frustrated I was hurting my self, sadly I often wanted some from some one who could not fulfill my wants or neeeds because they were unable to.
I often wanted some from some one that they could not give me.
They were unable to.
Many pains in my life caused fears in me that I did not understand.
I found that fears disabled me from living a healthy full life.
I found that fears disabled me from having healthy intimate relationships with my self and with other people.
The pains and emotional trauma caused me to live in fear of healthy emotional intimate relationships.
Very sadly guilt shame regret hatred resentments procrastination indicated my pains fo the past wee not healed.
I am a non remigious person yet I have become a very healthy spirtual person.
I understand that my healthy conscience is based up on spirtual values.
When ever I go against my conscience I not only hurt other people I also hurt my self.
I use to think that having a conscience was a very painful thing to have.
Now I understand that when I tried to justfy doing or saying some unhealthy I was being unhealthy and disrespectful.
As we heal our hurt inner chid some thing happen in us.
The pains start to heal, the fears reduce in us and wih other people, as fears reduce our trust grows.
Once our fears are reduced we are able to open up to some healthy therapies, and from healthy therapies come some very healthy intimacy.
The hurt inner chid no longer needs to tell lies, no longer lives in fears.
Part of the healing process is moving away and abstaining from addictions and obsessions.
Part of the healing process is also writing down and understanding our needs, our wants and finding new found skills and goals.
The healing and recovery brings more focus and balance in to our life.
In stead of reacting in such unhealthy ways we start to interact in much healthier ways.
Love peace and healing to every one.
Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham
