Blaming others

I don't think I have had those kind of thoughts towards particular people, but I can see why your frustration at the situation could brings those thoughts on. We've lost so much and suffered [as have loved ones] and it is a hell that we wish we could have been rescued from, even though we logically know no one could have fixed it for us.

It is a tough journey but keep fighting through. Wish you the best!

I have been guilty in the past of blaming my wife for my gambling. If we had an argument or something I would go out and gamble and then come home in a bad mood and blame it on her. I wish I hadn't done that.

Posted by: @bettyfretty

Do you ever blame others for your gambling?

Hi

Being consumed by my unhealthy addictions and obsessions was just the symptoms that I was emotionally vulnerable.

My unhealthy reactions were pains I could not heal, fears I could not reduce, my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations, my loneliness due to my fears of emotional intmacy and my  feelings of boredom because I felt so inadequate insecure and inept.

I could nto articulate my feelings ad emotions or let people know how vulnerable Iwas.

I use to have unhealthy fear of emotional intimacy.

Every time I escaped to unhealthy habits I would cause myself and others more pains.

I was so filled with guilt shame and regret yet I did not know how t stop the self destructive behaviours.

Only once I went to meetings for my self, only once I handed over all finances could I put more time and effort in to my recovery program.

In order for me to heal the hurt inner child in me I needed to stop causing myself any more pains.

I did not fully understand how unhealthy I was.

Love healing and peace to everyone

Dave L

AKA Dave of Beckenham UK