HONESTY Why FEAR being

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gadaveuk
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Hi

There was a saying that honesty is the best policy, why is that so.

Our conscience is based up on healthy spirtual values.

When I lied it indicated the high levels amount of fear and pain I was in at that time.

Can we be completely honest if we are living in fears.

For me by going to many meetings I would abstain from one unhealthy habit.

For me the recovery meetings helped me get more honest with my self.

Only once that happened I got more honest with other people.

I use to lie because I lived in high levels of fears and anxiety.

Because of my high high levels of fears I would go in to panick mode where I would be unable to think things out clearly or sensibly.

Pains earlier in my life caused me to live in so many fears.

I use to fear being honest.

I use to fear being questioned.

I use to fear rejection and abandonment.

I use to fear being accountable.

Through the recovery meetings and therapies my fears would reduce and I could articulate my feelings and my emotions.

In time I would move on from abstaining from addictions and obsessions and start to heal the hurt inner child in me.

I suffered in so many ways in my child hood.

It was important to heal my pains and coming out of the emotional trauma I use to bury and supress.

In the recovery meetings and therapies I would find my self laughing in so many ways.

The question is did I ever think I would laugh at my self.

In time I would understand that my addictions and obsessions only indicated how emotionally vulnerable I use to be.

How ever far we come in our recovery that on seeing and hearing therapies we understand where we came from but more importantly we can see and live a future life free of our unhealthy reactions.

For me the recovery program is not about who is right or wrong but more about what is healthy or unhealthy.

I have been in recovery since 1971.

I have been clean in my recovery since 1992.

I question why it took me so long over 20 years to understand that recovery was all about healing the hurt inner child in me.

Yet how many times when questioned how I was I would say I was fine or not so bad, was that the truth.

How many times did I think that if I got back the money I had lost would make things better and heal my pains.

I am an open book in my recovery.

I am seriously a survivor.

I am able to set boudaries and have a voice from a place of peace.

How much time and effort was I willing to invest in to my becoming a much healthier healed person.

Healing love and peace to every one.

Dave L

AKA Dave of Beckenham.

 
Posted : 20th April 2024 10:39 pm
gadaveuk
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Hi

Living in fear for me limited me having healthy intimate realtionships.

My fears were due to the pains of my past not healed and not resolved..

In a healthy meeting based on therapies we get more honest less afraid aand often use to healthy emotional intimacy.

In others we see and feel our self in other, who we were and who we can become.

For me healthy emotional intimacy is a big benefit to healing my pains.

In time the hurt inner child in me came out and did not live in as much fear as he use to do.

Some people might think that love is a physical attraction thing or a sexual thing but how many people feel frusutrated due to  lack of emotional intimacy.

Love Dave L

 
Posted : 30th April 2024 4:59 pm
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