People set all kinds of goals for themselves. Typical goals are saving for a down payment on a house, or a car; going back to school to earn a degree, excerising on a regular basis, etc. But let me ask you this:Â Have you ever heard of anyone saying that their goal was to hit rock bottom??? It sounds crazy; no one would do that. However, we as problem gamblers are doing just that if we continue down this road. Let's make a goal to get into recovery and NOT hit rock bottom.Â
You’re absolutely right what you say. I havnt gambled for about 9 weeks now and I don’t think I ever will again. I didn’t realise how bad it was but looking back I was stuck in a rut doing the same thing every week. Always gambled a Friday night my Saturday were planned around gambling on 3 P.m kick offs and my Saturday nights were always chasing losses. I often won bets and could of had winnings but whatever I won I just seemed to put bigger bets on to try and win more then always losing the lot and spending Sundays depressed thinking of excuses to explain why I’m skint and moody. My weekends now are going places with my wife and son or going to pub with friends and enjoying myself. My turning point was about 3 weeks ago my son wanted some football boots a football strip and a designer tracksuit I have got them for him for Christmas and I know he’s going to be chuffed to bits with them that’s all I keep thinking about how I could of spent my money better over the years I used to often spend the same amount of money on an in play football game for a team to score the next goal in 10 minutes and lose instantly, how stupid does it sound that! Let’s put money on a random Brazilian game to score a goal within 10 minutes! I’ve wasted enough years now it’s time to look after me and my family. Anyways sorry for ranting on think I lost my trail of thought there 😂 good luck guys we can do this 👍
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I did not put my self on the street but that was not my doing.
The recovery program was about understanding how unhealthy I was.
No problem was resolved by giving my hard money to complete strangers while I and my family went with out.
The gambling was very much an adrenaline rush which was very much fear based.
I use to think that the buzz I expereinced from risk taking was the best feelings I had.
I even thought that I loved gambling.
The recovery program was going to help me heal my pains.
The recovery program was going to help me reduce my fears.
The recovery program was going to help me reduce my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations.
The recovery program was going to help me open up to therapies reduce my fears adn improve my trust issues.
The recovery program was going to help me become more self sufficient and more productive with my life.
The recovery program was going to help me exchange my unhealthy habits in to healthy habits.
Once I fullfiled my needs.
Once I fullfiled my wants.
Once I fullfiled my goals there was no limit what could achieve.
Today I do not want or need to gamble.
That sounds much more healthy for me.
Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham
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Transforming unhealthy habits into healthy ones is a powerful step towards a more fulfilling life. It’s inspiring to see that you’ve found the strength to not only address your fears and trust issues but also to set and fulfill your needs, wants, and goals.
Remember, every step forward is a step towards a healthier, more self-sufficient you. Your commitment to change and your progress so far is commendable. Keep focusing on your well-being and continue to embrace the support and therapies that aid in your recovery.
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On walking in to the recovery program I use to say I have to.
In my recovery I mostly gave up saying I have to instead I was say I need to, I want to, and time I understood that my motives for doing things were much healthier.
Time again and again when I came out of gambling establishment what were my feelings ad emotions.
Was gambling a form of self abuse and self harm.
Was gambling in any way healthy for me or my family.
I am able to have many clean days in my life today.
I am living in less fear, I am living with out having to tell lies.
In the recovery program I was able to learn how to heal my pains.
In the recovery program I was able to learn how respect my self.
In the recovery program I was able to learn how to love my self.
In time I understood that recovery was abaout healing my pains.
In the recovery program I was able to understand that humbling my self was not belittling my self.
That humbling my self was about understanding each of us in the recovery program are all equals.
The recovery program helped me help my self become much healthier.
For me the recovery program is about what is healthy and what is unhealthy.
The recovery program empowered me in so many ways.
Healing love and peace to every one.
Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham
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