Should I tell him how Gambling makes me feel

Hi

Should I sit my partner down and explain to him how his gambling affects me?

That is a very interesting question.

I think the biggest impact was when my wife explained that it was the lies and deceptions that caused her the biggest pains.

The recovery program is abaout not only abstaining from my unhealthy habits but to also heal from my pains that were not healed long before my addictions and obsessions.

How it makes me feel?

I as  an addict am nto able to cope with my own emotional vulnerablity so I am not able to help you heal with your pains.

In writing it down is a very healthy thing to do.

Yet it would not help your partner heal your or his pains.

To stop being a victim one needs to start understanding how emotionally vulnerable we are.

You say you feel broken today,

Maybe you are able to move on from living in your fears.

The serenty prayer helps you with that one.

I can heal my pains but I am unable to heal other peoples pains.

There is a reason why people marry addicts.

Understanding that reason is also important.

I want him to understand how it makes me feel but I can’t let him know just how broken I am.

You have already given your self a voice.

The problem I have is that when I feel like this I am very quiet in myself,

It is not healthy to live your life in fear.

In time it will make sense and you will make much healthier choices once your pains are healed.

Once your fears are reduced and faced.

You need to look after and protect the little hurt child in your self.

Thank you for your sharing.

Dave L