My other half confessed to gambling and getting on over 25k of debt and used all his savings ( I say his - we both save to go towards a house deposit- I still have my portion)Ā
He took out credit cards and maxed out snd couldbt afford the minimum monthly repayment. He went to his family who paid off a part of the debt - using what should have been his inheritance from his grandparents who passed a few years ago - which was also to be put towards house deposit.
only then did he tell me.Ā
I feel so angryĀ
I feel lied to and betrayedĀ
I canāt stop cryingĀ
He acts like itās all ok, the cards have mostly been paid off and now he thinks he can continue betting because he learnt his lesson and wonāt be so stupid again.Ā
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Hi burnt outĀ
paying a gamblerās debt sets them free to gamble again. It takes away responsibility and improves their credit score.Ā
Another problem these days is that if a lender decides to look at spending some donāt like gambling transactions.Ā
in my experience you need to find out if he told the truth to family before they paid the debt. Everyone needs to be open and honest and realise you canāt/ shouldnāt give a gambler money.
Donāt be ashamed this is not your fault, addiction is an illness fuelled by secrets and lies. Denial is common place. Trust me a compulsive gambler always thinks it wonāt happen again, Iāll win it back.
credit checks can show what debt there is, how many credit cards. Do yours too.
try and get some help and advice for yourself. Gamcare and Gamanon can help.Ā
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