My other half confessed to gambling and getting on over 25k of debt and used all his savings ( I say his - we both save to go towards a house deposit- I still have my portion)Â
He took out credit cards and maxed out snd couldbt afford the minimum monthly repayment. He went to his family who paid off a part of the debt - using what should have been his inheritance from his grandparents who passed a few years ago - which was also to be put towards house deposit.
only then did he tell me.Â
I feel so angryÂ
I feel lied to and betrayedÂ
I can’t stop cryingÂ
He acts like it’s all ok, the cards have mostly been paid off and now he thinks he can continue betting because he learnt his lesson and won’t be so stupid again.Â
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Hi burnt outÂ
paying a gambler’s debt sets them free to gamble again. It takes away responsibility and improves their credit score.Â
Another problem these days is that if a lender decides to look at spending some don’t like gambling transactions.Â
in my experience you need to find out if he told the truth to family before they paid the debt. Everyone needs to be open and honest and realise you can’t/ shouldn’t give a gambler money.
Don’t be ashamed this is not your fault, addiction is an illness fuelled by secrets and lies. Denial is common place. Trust me a compulsive gambler always thinks it won’t happen again, I’ll win it back.
credit checks can show what debt there is, how many credit cards. Do yours too.
try and get some help and advice for yourself. Gamcare and Gamanon can help.Â
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