Don’t know what to think

My husband has an addiction and even though he has given me control of his money. I feel very harassed when he calls me from casinos and asks money. 90 percent of time I don't but the ten percent time I give the money , I feel so guilty. I don't know how to leave but I think I really want to leave before it gets worse. Till now he has no debts but it will soon happen I think 

@LC2024 Sorry to hear about this. I adapted the Russian proverb as a partner of a compulsive gambler: trust but verify. I simply will not take their word for it when it comes to finances, and this will be the case for life and we’ve come to terms with this.

If he said he has no debts, I will need to see the credit report, be given access to all bank accounts etc. Almost all gamblers will downplay the debts especially if still active. People do recover and stay off gambling but it needs commitment and hard work from the gambler. 

@anxiousspouse Since my husband quit gambling he was committed not to do any gambling, not even flip a coin. It’s a disease, an addiction. It’s not something we can feed drip to them and they’ll be fine. Please don’t get manipulated that a small amount of gambling is acceptable, it will never be for a gambling addict.