Gambling has ruined my life completely, I went on a run of no gambling got my debt to 6.1k after borrowing 10k in total and was finally paying it off and had 2.5k savings. I recently got into a blip,a month of everyday betting which got me in further borrowing raising my debt to 12k and raising the monthly installments I have to pay 343 instead of the 271 and I haven’t even included the interest and also I have no savings to back myself incase I lose my job. I worked so hard to build my credit and I don’t want no markers on my credit file for accepting help. I have £50 to my name and I hate my job. I really don’t know what to do as my job not fixed times so I can’t even commit to a second job as the timing is all over the place and doesn’t have overtime. I get paid weekly I still can save some a month but I gamble cus i think ill make back the money when reality it’s never going to happen. I know how this goes. Requires discipline and saying home as not new to losing money gambling but seeing ppl my age im 23 just be normal with their lives makes me want to risk the lil money I have to make back my money. Im very ill I know this a disease thats come in my life I dont know how to combat this. I hate not having an emergency fund and not being able to afford things and I live with my parent so to not save at this time is inexcusable. I been gambling for two years and lost 27k. I just want it to stop so can live a normal life. I have nobody to talk to about this and in homesty I don’t want to talk to anyone as it’s so tough getting back on your feet I just want to sleep and work. I noticed I’m gaining weight and not taking care of myself as much so it’s impacting me a lot. It’s sad I don’t want no support I just want to know how to accept the money is gone chip away at my debt and become completely normal and not waking up and being sad straight asay
Hello, sorry to hear that mate. We are almost the same but i dont have debt. I am 22years old and i have been gambling for last 10years and last 5years with a problem. 3 days ago i lost 10k (all my savings) after that i told about everything to my dad first time ever. I can tell you its best thing i have did. I am not alone anymore and its much easier to continue gamble free and focusing on getting the life back i used to have and make the difference. I hope you can talk about this to someone. Its going to change a lot.
I agree with Mike, you must tell your family, it will be hard and it will hurt them and hurt you even more, because once you air the dirty secrets out loud it gets very real, very quickly. I was gambling for 10 years, I tried to stop so many times on my own, managed about a week. One morning I work up and I had had enough I could see rock bottom so I either let gambling take my life which it will have done, or I take my life back and regain control. I told my partner, my parents and my daughter and son in law, and I told my employer who I had stolen from to fund my habit. They have all including my employer shown me so much support and forgiveness, I could be in prison but I have kept my job and I am repaying what I took. Because it is out in the open, if I went back now after the love I have received it would kill me, they are my motivation, they keep me strong and I am doing this for them not me. Accept your losses, open up, and be completely honest, the lies and secrets will stop immediately and after a few weeks (which will be hard) you will start enjoying the "normal" life again. I am skint, I am in debt but I am the happiest I have been in over 10 years, and this is only at 54 days GF, imagine the normal we can enjoy in a year/ 2 years. You've got this but you have to want it, and the most important thing is that you HAVE to accept your losses, you are not getting it back, its done, its over. Acceptance is key x
Hi your not alone I’m sat feeling the same. I’m also a mum so that adds to the shame and guilt. I was paid last week and every penny of my months money had to go to my housing association as I was doing a mutual exchange. I was left with just enough for food etc and I thought maybe if I deposit a small amount I could get a win would be a great help with this house move plus my kid was going on a weekend away trip with the school and needed some things bought (all in same week as house move). Well that deposit never won nothing so I signed up to another site they set a deposit limit based on what my income is again no win and another site joined once that deposit limit was reached. I joined 5 casinos that night which all turned out to be sister sites and I lost around £600. Meaning I had to borrow for the house move and the school trip I then got paid again and paid back some of the people I owed left with next to nothing thought my luck has to change so played again and lost it all. I’m now sat with my inbox full of friends needing money back that I don’t have and unable to face my mum as I also owe her with no idea how I’m getting by until my next pay 3rd June. This has also came right after a big loss of near £1500 around 3/4 weeks ago. It’s been the longest loosing streak I’ve had especially given I only play the same 4 eyecon games. I keep thinking how long can these same 4 games across all these sites go on spinning so badly 🙈. I’m out of work right now due to health problems so those sums of money are a LOT of money to me. The guilt & the shame are unbelievableÂ
Sorry I don’t ever type anything on here I tried to reply to your post but I think I’ve someone shared it instead on here 🙈. I scrolled down could see others replies but not mine then I seen my name but your post under it so I’ve no idea what I’ve done. I’ve reported it to explain to admin and ask them to remove where I’ve shared it I seen a quote option when I tried to reply maybe I’ve clicked on thatÂ
@jacmcm this place is for sharing, you should feel no shame on here, its a place to be honest and share your story, I have found keeping a diary on here is so beneficial you will not be judged, we all suffer from the same disease and have all been where you are now x
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