Hello, I just joined in desperation as I have nowhere to turn.
My husband of 13 years is a compulsive gambler who is ruining our lives. I have a catalogue of low tricks he's pulled but the latest one has left us with no holiday money at all for a holiday next week. I can't talk to me family or friends about it, he says it's always my fault.
I face no sleep for next week as I'm working full time but will do a night shift in a warehouse too to try and get some holiday money. I need to find the strength to throw him out before I lose my house. I'll be reading as much as I can to see how others in my situation have managed.
I'm in total despair at the moment and can't see anything clearly any more : (
I just found out my husband of 12 years is a compulsive gambler/lier. He has been telling me we're skint and my two children can't have new things, I can't get basic things and we've barely been able to buy a food shop most weeks. I then find out that actually we would have been very well off without his gambling!! He's been blaming me for years, saying I don't earn enough! Although I'm on a very good wage for part time, while taking care of our children. I feel like I don't even know him anymore! He's aggressive and nasty.
It's not your fault! Or mine for that matter. Is there any way you can go on the holiday without him? He's messed up not you. Why should you work so hard and he gets to enjoy it?
I'm thinking I have to leave my husband so he can decide what he wants more and accept his problem.
I think there are more of us in this position than we will ever know about. It's so hard to get your head around things too as things like this just don't seem to be talked about. No one can see how much you are hurting as all the bruises are on the inside. But you are not alone xxx
I just found out my husband of 12 years is a compulsive gambler/lier. He has been telling me we're skint and my two children can't have new things, I can't get basic things and we've barely been able to buy a food shop most weeks. I then find out that actually we would have been very well off without his gambling!! He's been blaming me for years, saying I don't earn enough! Although I'm on a very good wage for part time, while taking care of our children. I feel like I don't even know him anymore! He's aggressive and nasty.
It's not your fault! Or mine for that matter. Is there any way you can go on the holiday without him? He's messed up not you. Why should you work so hard and he gets to enjoy it?
I'm thinking I have to leave my husband so he can decide what he wants more and accept his problem.
I am in the same boat as all you ladies. Although I have known my partner gambles since he started. He didnt always gamble, but it has got worse over the last 2 years. Its all come to blows now. for the 2nd time this year he spent our rent and bills money. he has blown over a grand in 1 week. since last saturday he has blown our bill money plus he has pawned his computer and i phone. I have told him he is leaving. I cannot do this anymore. I love him but its too much.
It's sad to see so many other people in the same boat as me as it's a horrible position to be in. I also knew my fianc gambled from the start but he calmed down once we moved in together so I just assumed he only played fruit machines here and there like any other person. However now we have had at least 1000 spent over the last couple of months that he has taken for gambling. It's such a terrible time too as I only gave birth 6 weeks ago and just don't have the time or energy to be dealing with this cr** from him. I asked him this morning to leave, he spouted the usual tripe about stopping but refuses to get help. I don't really know what to do as I really don't want to be a single parent to such young children and I love him but I can't keep bailing us out of financial problems that he causes!
How are you today? I thought I had it tough but I am just at the start of it so I can't imagine what you're all going through. Hope you've all had a good day. Xx
Hi Ive had enough of my gambling husband, its the lies as well as being skint all the time. Were now in arrears with mortgage, constant unpaid bills. He drinks as well as gambling. He is not the man I married 5 years ago. Ive confided in friends and family and Im getting prepared to finally end this marriage as he is not willing to change and Im not prepared to lose our home as we have young children. I look forward to my new future when I can finally sleep at night knowing all my bills are paid. I was going to end it last year and so wish I had now as take it from me it only gets worse. Feel like I have hit rock bottom financially and he is the cause of it all. Be strong and brave as this is the hardest thing Ive ever had to deal with.
I have been with my partner for 6 years and knew he was a gambler when I met him, but over recently years has got out of control. We have a 2 year old boy and when I was pregnant with him he spent all our savings and maxed out his credit card to the tune of 10's of thousands. He promises to give up but then continues. he has even opened an account online behind my back. I don't know what to do, it is making me ill. We have no future if he continues but he refuses to get help. Why does he show no remorse? can he not see what he is doing to our family and to me who keeps bailing him out?? can anyone help? The constant arguments are affecting the kids now. I feel so low! I try to talk to him about it but all he does is say that I am picking an argument AGAIN!! Really? Help please??
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