It is over!

Oh Rachel I really feel for you. Life with a gambler is mentally exhausting. Just be careful you are not going round in circles.... You make one rule he finds a way round it so you make another. Seek advice from Gamcare. 

The forum's are a very helpful reminder of what life was like with a CG. I'm not going back! 

Hi Minnie

Been a Much better week. He has been away on a course and followed all rules put in place. Full tank petrol, no cards, limited cash.  Phone tracker on. He Didn’t gamble once. So proud of him. He came back feeling so much better. I will support him all the time as long as he keeps working with me. 

Hope things are still positive for you. Hope your little one doing well. 

That's great, from what I've read on here taking control of finances and limiting cash, cards etc seems to be the way forward. It's good that he is agreeing to it as it shows he is wanting to change. Really pleased things are going well.

Hi Minnie. 

Hope you and your little one are well. We had a set back yesterday. Had to rescue him from a betting shop. My own fault, kinda, but not.  I gave him his card, he was working and needed to get some fuel and we didn’t have time before I went to work, then his client let him down so he Ended up at a lose end, he would normally have been occupied up to me finishing work as well.   Still another lesson learned. Can’t ever risk any chance when he could end up at a lose end. He knows he is in a bad place with his Gambling at the moment. Take care Rachel

We're doing okay thank you. Working full time and juggling a toddler is hard and I worry about our future but it is nice not having to worry about my ex. I don't miss been lied to, listening to all the excuses, feeling guilty, and lying awake at night wondering what he will do next with regards to money. You know he never apologised once for any of it! It was like he was the victim in all of this, poor guy! Always moaning that he wanted a house like his friends/family, a nice car etc he never understood why he didn't have these things even though he earns a good income!  All my advice on budgeting etc fell on deaf ears. He did attend GA but instead of talking about what he had learned from it he spoke about the people there as if he wasn't one of them.

I felt like I should have done more to help him and carried a lot of guilt but at the end of the day he could have worked a lot harder too if he really wanted to change. Please don't carry all the blame.

Take care