Thank you for responding - I don’t believe he has hit rock bottom - he’s been trying to convince me that at the moment we can afford everything including minimum payments on his credit cards so in his view we are in a secure place and since I found out he hasn’t gambled so believes he can stop ! He knows it’s his problem but I don’t believe he even remotely recognises the damage he has caused me and our children growing up - only at that point will he truly accept he has a problem. He has to lose everything 🙁
He says he just wants to look forward and for me to believe he can change
Hi kittiekat, I know someone who did that. Gamblers are very selfish and don't consider the emotional damage to their family. Once they stop it becomes very real and they are focused on recovery. It takes all their energy to occupy their minds with other things. It's not an overnight fix, it could take years to get back to normal, if ever. You have to look after you. If he's not attending GA or counselling he will not be remorseful or making amends. Follow your gut. I think you're doing what's best for you.
hi kitty x its a massive decision for you x take time x and make the decision that best suits u x u only have one life x night x
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