Hi there...
Not quite sure what to say here.
My partner has an obvious problem.
He'll admit it one day then shove it under the carpet and refuse to speak about it the next.
We're in lots of debt..which I am now trying to get under control.
I'm trying really hard to support him and to give him chance to get help in his own time but I'm struggling with that bit.
I'm so angry with him.
Does anyone know WHERE to go for help? How do i/we get help if he refuses to accept the problem??
Really want this all to be over now 🙁
Hi trapt I'm wife of cg. It sounds like you are very aware of what is happening. Getting control of finance is key. Safeguard your money, no joint accounts, get credit reports. My husbands salary used to get paid directly to my account. Now I have control of all passwords, moving money. Call gamcare helpline they will have more information. Go to a gamanon meeting if you can, I go every week. My cg goes to GA. This is a lifelong addiction, he has to commit fully to stopping, you cannot do it for him. If you want help and support I'd go to a meeting. He may follow, he may not. You will learn how to cope. Keep posting and asking questions everyone is on here to help each other. Stay strong you've done the right thing. Oh keep an eye on the post too, loan applications credit cards etc. Good luck!
Hello Trapt_410,
Well done for posting on the forum.
It sounds like you are feeling exasperated with your partner's persistent gambling problem, and frustrated with his lack of progress towards recovery. You mentioned that sometimes he admits that he has a problem, those moments could be 'Windows of opportunity' to invite him to call us about treatment options; there is a variety of sources and types of support, professional and peer, 1-2-1 and group, face-to-face and online, he is welcome to call us on our freephone 0808 8020 133 to discuss options.
You are also welcome to talk with us for emotional support. Advisers are available on the freephone and Netline from 8am to midnight daily, if you'd like to have a word with us about how you're feeling. It is understandable if you sometimes have feelings of anger and impatience about your partner's problem, at times your partner probably feels similarly trapped with his gambling problem. Using support for yourself could be a way for you to reduce that harm that you are experiencing emotionally, reducing the risk of you feeling overwhelmed or burned-out. If you don't feel ready to talk you might like to read this page: http://www.gamcare.org.uk/get-support/partners-friends-and-family
About the debt issues, some of our forum users have posted positive feedback about using free professional debt advice services like the National Debtline 0808 808 4000, StepChange 0800 138 1111 or PayPlan 0800 280 2816. There are additional services details on our links page: http://www.gamcare.org.uk/about-us/links-other-support-agencies
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