Partner has started gambling again

I think you need support too.  Unfortunately your partner has an addiction.  I know from personal experience (family member) that this will happen again.  Ask yourself do you really want this life?   Do you want to be lied to?  Do you want to be hurt again? 
mainly do you want to be constantly looking over your shoulder and doubting everything?

I expect you already know the answer but are just looking for validation. I really wish you well it’s a horrible choice and one I’m glad I have never had to make.  But you WILL be ok, go with your gut instinct x

Dear @alicen

I'm very sorry to hear about what you have experienced. I can imagine it has been incredibly difficult and stressful for you but I am glad you have been able to offload on the Forum.

Please know we are here to support those affected by others gambling too. Our advisors are available 24 hours a day on the Helpline on 0808 8020 133 or via live chat. Do get in contact and we can talk everything through and look at all of the support available to you. 

Please do continue posting and sharing your story.

All the best,

Fay

Forum Admin

Do you still need help for your friend? I think that the OP has elaborately written for you. You should support your friend always. You already said he is seriously addicted to gambling. And it's not really easy to quit the game and lead a normal life, but possible. It's better if you consult to a specialist. All the best!

Posted by: @alicen

Hi everyone..

First time posting on here. My partner is 32 and we have a beautiful almost two year old together. He has a history of gambling and depression/anxiety which he has struggled with since I met him 7 years ago. 

his last known episode of gambling was about 4 years ago. I recently found out he had started gambling again last week and had maxed out all of his credit cards and his overdraft. 

I found out a few days ago after he had attempted to go and take his own life due to the thoughts of guilt/shame of gambling. 

its been a whirlwind of a week. He has sought support from doctors for support/counselling/medication all of which he has done on his own with me there supporting him with whatever he needed to do. I’ve taken all control of our finances now. 

I suppose the reason I’m posting on here is for some general support. I’m feeling so alone with it all and not sure how to process things. I’m going through feeling all sorts of emotions but the most hurtful thing it being lied too and put in a really difficult position. I’m trying to validate how he’s feeling whilst also feeling so angry this has happened again. 

we’ve had to cancel a family holiday due to not being able to afford it and I am now faced with worrying about money and how we will afford things. It’s been me explaining to our family and friends what’s been going on or why we can’t do things we had planned due to his massive debt caused by gambling. Rising uk living costs also make me feel so uneasy. 

I love him dearly and when things are good they are great however I also feel in a position where I feel like this isn’t what I want and don’t know what to do. 

 

I'm the wife of a compulsive gambler. What resonatez with me is how crossed up you feel....I love him, but he keeps wandering back to it and waits for me to find him out.

I know he needs my love and support. but I'm really angry at him too. I have seen the tears, heard the promises to stop ....more timed than I care to admit. Tears no.longer move me.

I need to talk to someone....I feel emotionally distant and numb. I love him and want him to get help....but he needs to join GA, exclude himself from casinos, and demonstrate his effort to beat this. I don't trust him....and that's not a good foundation for a marriage.

He stays away for a couple of montbs...but then finds an excuse to go to the casino. I don't want to be his keeper...but that's where we're at.

I m angry at myself for staying with him but don't want my life with him to implode either.

Did they talk with a psychotherapist?