really struggling

No advice can stop the hurt & nothing you do makes a person gamble! Compulsive gamblers can find blame in everything! Hell, I remember one particular rant @ my partner for being too supportive 🙁

There isn't a right or a wrong way to do things because everyone is different, so I'm afraid to give you advice other than to suggest getting professional help for you. I can say though, people here whether they post it or not will be rooting for you!

- ODAAT

Hi ODATT,

Thank you for your reply it made me think a little. I know everyone is different I suppose that's why there isn't a "right" way to help him deal with it.

I think, like him I will take one day at a time and together we can see where that takes us. Try not to over think it or look for things that perhaps aren't there. I think I need to accept there will be up days and down days.

thank you again.

Feels awful that you are thanking me...Sounds like you are feeling a bit more positive though & that's great 🙂

Keep strong & keep posting if you want advice from non-professionals, I haven't noticed many posts unanswered!

I hope things get easier for you - ODAAT

I'm feeling exactly like you today. My partner has gambled thousands in the past that was meant to be for our future.

ive been really supportive of him in the last week. But tonight I'm tired and fed up and just feel so much anger towards him for doing it. So you are certainly not on your own in feeling this way. You want to be completely there for them and take control but part of you is just so upset about what they done.

At first I just couldn't understand why you would even start gambling as your never going to win big. This site has been amazing for me to gain understanding also to vent my fustration.

I'm feeling exactly like you today. My partner has gambled thousands in the past that was meant to be for our future.

ive been really supportive of him in the last week. But tonight I'm tired and fed up and just feel so much anger towards him for doing it. So you are certainly not on your own in feeling this way. You want to be completely there for them and take control but part of you is just so upset about what they done.

At first I just couldn't understand why you would even start gambling as your never going to win big. This site has been amazing for me to gain understanding also to vent my fustration.

Tomorrow is a new day. I know I'll be feeling more positive and I'm sure you will. Your right we just need to understand there will be highs and lows but if we believe they can beat it I'm sure they will.

good luck

Well here again 🙁 the last few days have been bearable and ive been trying to keep positive. Today it's my husband, he has got lower and lower as the day has gone on. I find it very hard to talk to him, he doesnt want to interact and I understand he is having a hard day but what can I do? I feel nothing I say or do helps and worried sick this is going to be a slippery slope.
Will this ever get better??????

Thank you half-life. I have taken control of his finances I have his wallet, cards, phone ipad etcso unless he gets money somehow he can't do it.
Im just struggling with his mood swings and this sounds awful but at this moment in time im so angry with him I actually hate him. Im not sure I can stay with him and support him.

Hi Rodders, firstly I feel for you, you are hurting from all sorts of issues, trust, loss of family money, many other emotions are going through your head right now, but you are not the only one hurting he is too. He is also 'grieving' about his loss of money, more than anything a gambler hates is losing money, so I speak as a compulsive and addicated gambler to roulette. Let me give you my story of Thursday night - I had a position of savings i was comfortable with in October lets call this £K50, i gambled below this and was at around £K43, I sought help, I am recieving counselling, the counsellor is very good, she knows her stuff. After two weeks I thought i knew better, back to the FOTB's (many trips - lets get back to the £K50, made 20 or so trips was up £K2.5 - in for the lohg-haul 10 weeks £K50 back.) Thursday as always happens lost £K2 on the fotb's could not stop until i was level or up, straight out the bookies, back on line £K2 in lost then at home late on, wine flowing, another £K2.2 into the casino, and by jove the £K6.2 i was down became £K8 , i can still see that £K8 blinking at me, shall i take a picture? No I'll keep playing maybe move to £K10, BUT SURE AS THE WINTER IS COLD £K8 EVAPORATED IN FORTY MINUTES, THEN ANOTHER £K4 to make the £K10 back, no chance, so I go in one evening from £K43 in savings to £K33, some will say I am lucky to have any savings at all, BUT THE POINT TO YOU RODDERS is I AM HURTING LIKE NOTHING HAS EVER HURT ME BEFORE FROM THESE LOSSES, AND THATS WHERE YOUR PARTNER WILL BE AT RIGHT NOW, nothing else will be hurting as much as the loss of funds. You are on this site and I can only speak as a compulsive gambler, it does give great advice, so take it, but will it save your relationship I don't know. Good Luck.