Hello,
I have existing trust issues with my significant other and we have broken up in the past due to his lying and gambling and inappropriate communications with women, etc. I logged into his poker site and discovered several debits from his credit card to the poker site. He did win money that exceeded the amount of the debits, but he insists this is not gambling and that he's playing for free and not spending any actual money since he will eventually be credited. He says he made the deposits from his credit card in order to be able to play the free games and that it's all perfectly above-board; in fact he compared what he's doing to transferring money between two separate bank accounts. I am unfortunately deeply aware of the amount of dysfunction that exists in the relationship due to trust issues, but it is truly crazy-making and upsetting to me that he's telling me I'm the one who is behaving inappropriately by insisting that he is gambling and being upset about it. He was on a probationary status within our relationship already as I promised to try again ONLY if there was no lying, gambling, other women, etc. I truly believe what he's doing constitutes gambling in every sense of the word, but he's insistent that it's 'just a game' and that 'no money is actually being spent' although his credit card has active charges. His withdrawals are pending, but he feels that since he lost any money, it's not gambling. And for the record, I realize how unhealthy the situation is and accept my role in it. Thoughts, advice, suggestions?
Hello Scout
Just to let you know your not alone on here and welcome
My dimes worth on this.
Its a pattern of behaviour more than anything isn't it
There are plenty of people who will say poker is about strategy and its a game not gambling but I used to justify a whole host of things that weren't gambling in the past just to get my buzz
For me Poker is gambling behaviour pure and simple and talking to my family now they agree that if they caught me playing poker for money or not, it wouldn't go down well
What you do about it? Well that has to be your choice however talking to my family they'd ask me to stop because they know where my gambling ends up and its nowhere nice
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