Hi.
I don't even know where to start. My husband has been gambling for the entire of our marriage. Everytime it's the same, I won't do it again and what does he do, goes and gambles. Recently. He lost his job, and gambled online as he was bored. Unknown to me, he spent 4k on a credit card. We went on holiday and them he started a new job. After we got back, we put an offer on a house and then I found out about the 4k debt. I can't believe he hid it from me for two and a half months. I confronted him and he lied saying it was fraud. After two days, he confessed. Since finding out I have been so depressed and now started counselling. It has not been two weeks since I confronted him and only today I got the credit card statements after being persistent. He says it won't happen again. I don't know what to think and feel anymore. I am so tired of it all.
Hi Fedup,
Thanks for your post, and I hope you're finding on the forum that you're really not alone with this problem. It can certainly be tough to live with someone with a gambling problem, and it sounds like you've had your share of stress over the years.
Well done for reaching out and getting some counselling. It's really important that you have some support through all this, and I'm glad you've taken that step. As much as your husband's behaviour affects you, you have to focus on yourself and what's ultimately going to be the best for you. Make sure you protect yourself both emotionally and financially.
It sounds like your husband acknowledges that his gambling causes problems, but is he taking any steps to change things at this point? Is he willing to engage in counselling for his addiction? Until he takes some action towards changing his behaviour, you're likely to find yourself in this spot again. I can hear how frustrating and draining that is for you.
If you'd like someone to chat to about any of this, we're here for you, too. Feel free to call us on our Helpline (0808 8020 133) or connect via the Netline, and we'd be happy to speak with you and see if we can help. We're open every day from 8am to midnight.
Hang in there, and I hope things get better for you.
Travis
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