Hi I have been posting on here a good bit over the last couple of weeks. I wanted to share the good news that my husband has been going to GA several nights this week and not only that but speaking very positively about it and he tells me he is getting a lot out of it.
We are still living apart and despite him now wanting to move back in I am nowhere near ready for that, things are still too raw for me and Iknow it would end in disaster as I still hold a lot of resentment and anger. However I am willing to support him so any advice on how I can do this or what I can say (if anything) while he attends the meetings would be appreciated.
TIA
Hi Tia
I am in a similar situation as you. I am the gambler and my partner found out. I got myself into 16k debt ! All this happened a few months ago. I am 84days gf but my partner has ended the relationship last weekend, which had hit me like a ton of bricks! But that will not push me to start gambling again. Can I ask if you how long ago did your husband gamble,? did you end your relationship? Will you take him back if he proves he can change? I get that us gamblers while active don't really care about anything else, attention to loved ones, lying, deceit, secrecy. It's all bad things, we don't mean to hurt our loved ones but we don't realise until it's too late. I do hope you can sort things out together and I wish you the best of luck. Thanks
Nev
Hi Mum of 3.
Although the GA meetings are a great step its not everything you need to see happening and I think you are aware of that.
Financial monitoring, living on allowances and proper self exclusions are essential to a proper recovery.
You will also have to realise that it can be beaten but there is no room for complacency. It can be an out of the blue thing as it triggers on stress and other factors. To an certain extent it could always be within a gambler but the urges do die away with a proper outlook on a healthy and good life
So I would say no real access to money or loans and proper self exclusions are good foundations for you getting on again. Its very personal though and its your decisision based on everything thats been going on.
I dont want to sound too harsh. Most gamblers deserve a second chance but only when they are ready to stop and displaying all the signs that they are not doing it grudgingly.
Best wishes from everyone on the forum
not always easy getting help but hope all those involved - gamblers, friends and family are getting help
happy new year
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