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 Loux
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I know it's a saturday and probably busy but I've recently relapsed it is getting worse and worse  I contacted last night to ask for gamcare to contact me, today I tried to get through netline a few times and failed asked for call backs still none.

Keep gambling and gambling I've lost all my money this month I feel so alone with it today and want to stop but the lack of support just makes me feel like giving up and is making me gamble more 

 

🙁  

 
Posted : 4th July 2020 2:52 pm
S.A
 S.A
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Hi.. sorry to read that your having a tough time of it. I find that when am gambling feelings of loneliness get amplified ten fold.

Deep breaths, go for a walk. You will feel different tomorrow.

Thoughts are with you

 
Posted : 4th July 2020 4:41 pm
Scottydogg
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Lou so Sorry to here your having bad time keep posting and talking we are here for you your friend  scotty 

 
Posted : 4th July 2020 4:44 pm
 Loux
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Just havent stopped gambling for days wish it was easier to just speak to an advisor on the phone. 

I requested callbacks but i missed it  now told I've got to try get hold of them I asked on netline for a callback but not possible :'( 

Just speaking to someone about gambling may have helped but instead they've just made me feel a nuisance 

I feel alone scared .and trapped by gambling right now

The stress of not being able to speak to someone is just making me gamble more

:'(

 
Posted : 4th July 2020 5:01 pm
Scottydogg
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Lou try to put the blocks in place you done  it before I know you can do it again  has anything trigger you gambling again Keep talking are you still working                  
  Scotty 

 
Posted : 4th July 2020 5:14 pm
(@kevthekev40)
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Loulou I feel for you 

And I also find it hard to control wanting to gamble and all you want to do is talk to someone who will say stop enough is enough you've No7 money nothing to live on and your making yourself depressed! Will you listen? Would that stop you if you've already lost alot of money and trying to chase it. There is always someone to talk to no matter what time you've had a relapse can't go back it's gone all you can do is be honest to your loved ones and let them know how you feel and all you want is to stop gambling but it's not as easy as that because we've got addictions and everyday there is that chance we will gamble all we can do is put things in place that limit the harm we can cause. Have you got someone who can help you and maybe take control off your money for abit just so you know this can't happen again and lend some money for Bill's and essentials that they can take out your next wages. Just a suggestion but it could work and you can be gamble free again 

 
Posted : 4th July 2020 6:08 pm
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Lou,

Thank you for posting on the forum. I am glad to see you have had some great advice from other forum users here this afternoon.

I am sorry you have not been able to speak to anyone so far today. We do have advisers available 24 hours a day and you are welcome to call us anytime.

It sounds like things are difficult for you right now. If you would like to give us a call on 0808 8020 133 or use our Livechat option one of our advisers can offer you support, advice and be able to talk to you about your gambling. 

Take care and keep posting,

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Posted : 4th July 2020 7:43 pm
 Loux
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I'm struggling so much why does it feel impossible to stop I want to gamble not to make money but it gives me a bit of a buzz keeps me focused etc.. then when u think ur loosing everything and have a small win that then gets spent on next game I cant stop..it was easier with gamstop but gamstop/gambian dont cover this as it's not even licensed. 

 

I feel trapped :'( I feel like noone truly understands when you relapse because you should have learnt your lesson 

I dont even understand myself if I do or dont want to stop

I'm so confused uve been gambling consistently hours and days at a time.

I feel so low I get buzz when I get a win but obvious I know loosing everything will crush me as well

 
Posted : 4th July 2020 8:10 pm
(@smartie6)
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I don’t believe that anyone should be chastised for relapsing, let’s be fair it can happen for many reasons, in my own case more often than not as a response to emotional problems.

I spent a good four hours today escaping my problems, and feeling that a win would solve all my issues. Tonight, and hence why I’m on here, I realised that this is just adding to them and I must at sometime wake up from this misery that I’m living.

Will seriously consider putting stops in place tomorrow but can’t promise it.

Loulou, hope you’re feeling better tomorrow, but I think I get it.

 

 

 
Posted : 4th July 2020 8:39 pm
Scottydogg
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Lou I get you I did it because I was bored   
I feel for you it’s so hard but please ring gamcare  scotty 

 
Posted : 4th July 2020 8:41 pm
 Loux
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Posted by: Smartie6

I don’t believe that anyone should be chastised for relapsing, let’s be fair it can happen for many reasons, in my own case more often than not as a response to emotional problems.

I spent a good four hours today escaping my problems, and feeling that a win would solve all my issues. Tonight, and hence why I’m on here, I realised that this is just adding to them and I must at sometime wake up from this misery that I’m living.

Will seriously consider putting stops in place tomorrow but can’t promise it.

Loulou, hope you’re feeling better tomorrow, but I think I get it.

 

 

That's exactly how I feel smarties just like you said it..its traps u in..

 

Thanks scotty it's more than being bored guess it feels like what smarties said.. its emotionally draining even after win feel guilty but playing helps escape it's hard to explain..I feel really low right now spend so many hours gambling I dont even know where the day goes

 
Posted : 4th July 2020 8:50 pm
(@smartie6)
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I’ve pressed the reset button again tonight Loulou. Fresh start for tomorrow.
As they say tomorrow is another day.

 
Posted : 4th July 2020 9:18 pm
(@as1992)
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Hi, i don't really gamble very much and I've only visited this website now because i have lost 200 pounds on online slot machines,but your comment really moved me as i know exactly that feeling, ive felt like you all day and I'm never doing it again, i don't want that feeling close to me, i think i know what will help you, have you ever heard of JORDAN PETERSON? if you haven't i recommend you buy his book 12 rules for life and watch some lectures as well, its helped me a lot with other addictions, first rule is Stand up straight with your shoulders back, this is to signify you are ready to battle anything life trows at you, life is hard and self pitty does not help, you have to be ready and brave to fight your demons! It's about adopting responsibility in life, about how that brings joy, if you are anything like me, thats why you are feeling that way! You feel helpless in the belly of the beast but get up, sit straight, pull your shoulder back, breath in and be ready to get yourself out!

 
Posted : 4th July 2020 10:58 pm
 Loux
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My head hurts physically and emotionally even after some wins it's the amount of time and changing emotions spent on it ..staying up refreshing pages etc etc I know the only person  that can change it is me but I just not been able to stop today I really need to try and take a bit of a break from it tomorrow even if it's just a little while :'(

 
Posted : 4th July 2020 11:44 pm
(@smartie6)
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Loulou, fresh day today. Try to do something to take your mind off things. Maybe a few hours walk or something you’ve been putting off in the house and garden. Afterwards when you look back at what you’ve achieved you’ll feel great.

I’m getting out and about myself and hoping to get back and do a few hours in the garden. I don’t feel like it but I know it’s the best thing for me.

 
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