Insensitive.

Not gonna lie. Not my style. Have spent all day hitting the refresh button.. I'm really tired...But, it's my choice to obsessively hit the refresh button. Kind of sad but not gambling.

Alan, I think the point about DF's remark was missed. So I'm gonna be really blunt here about where I was at. Last night I was in a very, very bad mindset. Nobody knew that but me and my partner Patrice. I cannot always settle that with you,( the forum) when I am in a critical moment. Sometimes it takes me awhile to figure out where my mind is at. Now that I am much calmer, I can.. That said I think DF's remark was about being sensitive to where another person might be. That was DF's point. Not that you, Alan, would push Duncs off a cliff. Or, joke about it?! I don't think you are a bad person with bad intentions. I don't know you. This is a one dimensional world. In the 3rd I believe I have said this before, I am more introverted. I don't get energy from other people. I go internally for that. I don't get a lot from banter and conversation. I went off last night and the trigger had absolutely nothing to do with anyone from this forum. I apologized, and will apologize again. And, I certainly accept your apology. I am hearing mixed messages that I should keep a diary or go elsewhere if I can't take a joke or help. Or go elsewhere if I refuse to share or pay it forward. I thought putting my diary out there was sharing. I'm considering all suggestions. I have contacted admin because I was nervous and thought it best to remove my diary. Today, I'm thinking I could leave the toys but maybe exit the pram while at the same time not get my head stuck in the rails on the way out. (Joke) thank you Alan. I wish the best for you too.

I don't think DF's point was missed at all. Her comments were personal and made to shame and insult... very intentional mean spiritedness rather than just a persons unintentional misreading of another... not sure why those passive aggressive comments are any better??

Jeez...what a load of bellicks....I'm sorry guys....but we're all here cose were ALL compulsive gamblers.....at whatever stage of our recoveries....we agree with some posts....not others...we like some people...not others...take from it all what you will. ....it's YOUR choice...
It's YOUR recovery......only YOU can really change things....don't blame others on he said /she said.....be miserable in recovery...be happy...be silly...whatever you want....just do it your way....for you...when you want....me...I'm happy...I'm at peace with myself.....I'm gamble free ....and will work dam hard every day for ever......for me....to keep it that way...x

Dear forum users,

You have used this thread to explain to each other what you felt and thought about an interaction on a diary, and there seems to some agreement now on the goal of working towards acceptance of your differences with tolerance and sensitivity.

Kind regards,

Forum Admin.

Why has my comment been removed admin? Was my comment really the most offensive on this thread? Dragonflys insinuation that Alans comment on Judys diary was similar to someone pushing a suicidal man to his death was surely what was offensive here, certainly not my comment picking up on it. Double standards.

Missed the point as always Twinks. My comment indicated that the person concerned didn't have any empathy and would make an innapropriat joke at a stressful time - not that they would actually shove anyone off a cliff.

Over and out. The end

re: the first paragraph, I don't believe you. re: your last line, good. I won't hold my breath though.

"Alan"
The most empathetic compulsive gambler who has remained in recovery for over 365 days..
The one who goes out of his way to answer most newcomers to this forum. ..
The one who continually keeps in touch with forum users on a daily basis. .
The one who strives daily to make others feel better about themselves
I could go on and on....
But I won't !
I will just say.....
Anybody who can criticise that sort of achievement needs to take a leaf !

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Dragonfly , although Joan and myself have apologised to one another and mutually agreed it would be in both our interests not to communicate again , I'm saddened to see you still making comment regarding my " lack of empathy " and the fact that I continually make lnapropriate jokes at stressful times ? It's happened once and admittedly that was due to me misreading the true state Joan was in , again for which I've apologised . I've lost count of the people I've posted to over the last 12 months and this is the first time I've had a reaction like this but I've also noticed that you between April and Sept of this year have possibly made half a dozen entries of any description on your diary and therefore wonder how many New members you've reached out to with any sort of advice over the last twelve months ? It would be a sad state of affairs on this forum if everyone took your non proactive approach in offering a hand of friendship to newcomers in distress or just looking for someone to empathise a little . I'd therefore be very greatfull if you could refrain from slagging me off continually but I think that I and many others on here would be more than gratefull if somebody of your long term knowledge in Gambling addiction decided to help in the support of newcomers . Greatly looking forward to your assistance ! Regards. Alan

I left the forum in disgust and for my own sanity after the way you and your following treated Sandra on here. I don't have as short a memory as some. I do not s**g you off continually I made one entry and then responded to Twinks to clarify her misunderstanding of my entry. I will leave you to have the last word as always.

Well thanks for clarifying your position , I haven't got a short memory either and again Sandra and I sorted our differences . So my understanding is that you left the forum in disgust but returned to have a pop again ? Ok that's fine so will you be responding to newcomers in my place if I walk away and stop my stomach churning posts , as you seem to have ignored the question ?

Correction -

I shouldnt of got involved in this! But, hai ho i did.

Appologies

I do t know what you imagine Paul ? And your ma like mine was a very wise lady I'm sure , however it's nothing to do with ego , I'm asking a simple question regarding input and I see nothing wrong in that .

Can admin close this thread?