hi all, a brief intro.... my husband has always gambled on the horses, it used to be just Saturday's at the bookies with cash. about 10 years ago it all changed, he ran up £90,000 with of debt and had to declare himself bankrupt. I stood by him and we came out the other side for a fresh start, I took over bank accounts etc & he had a weekly allowance of cash. however I began to trust him again & he got himself a bank account and credit card (big mistake) . short story is its happening again, on a smaller scale thank god! iv had enough after 25 years together & looking to leave him though there's a shortage of houses in my area so may take a while. I'm feeling very sad but the lies have taken their toll, anyone else at breaking point? 🙁 xx
My husband started on horses but it's online slots now.Been gambling for a long time. I am getting fed up now of the lies too and broken promises .He won't get help. I think of leaving sometimes but housing would be difficult for me too and with kids and school it seems a minefield . I don't know what I will do but I would love not to have to worry about him gambling.Seems to take up most of my thoughts. I hope you can get something sorted for yourself .
now just how you feel my married life has been a mirror of yours - like you I am at breaking point but taking the time to ensure I make best decision for me.
it's a difficult decision. I can't even look at him, he's broken my trust so many times. communications have completely broken down, I'm just avoiding him atm trying to work out what's best for me & kids xx thanks for your replies, it helps to know I'm not the only one. a forever single life is really appealing to me just now
Hello fedupofthis and welcome to the forum
I am sorry to hear how difficult it is for you. Gambling and the loss of trust can put a great strain on relationships and it may be an idea to get some support for yourself at this point. It may help to have a talk with your doctor as you say you are feeling at breaking point.
We do have a freephone helpline where you can talk with an adviser they will listen to your concerns. The helpline is open 8am-midnight every day the Freephone helpline number is 0808 8020 133.
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