Hi
So I’ve finally admitted to myself that I’m out of control and I can’t control myself. I’m in the ball park of about £12,000 in debt and now I don’t know what the hell to do. I’ve seen this site before and never thought I was that bad, but when you start using credit cards to gamble, you soon realise that paying back interest every month is killing your income and your life.
I’ve managed to ban myself from most online casinos and gambling sites as of today, self exclusion for at least 3 years, more if I can, I understand as well, when I’m gambling that, I really can’t afford to do this, but I have this urge to do so, I e realised now I have a major problem and I’m going to try sort it. I can’t bring myself to tell my partner, I don’t know how she’d react, it’s a conversation I do not want to have. I’m paying back debts a little each month, but it’s leaving me skint with nothing to do. I’m also extremely depressed and considering visiting my doctors again for help, I know most of it stems from myself and my own problem.
How did you guys do it? What help is available? I’m now at the realisation that I need help and I’ve no idea where to start, I also struggle to admit that I have a problem, even though I know I do, but now It’s christmas and I’m miserable, but will have to put on a brave face for the family.
Google gamstop, then join for five years, completely free and stops all online gambling, this will help when u go to open a different site down the line. Good luck adam
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Hello,
Welcome to the forum. I came here in a trouble with debt and depression a little over a year ago. While im in a much better place now i have to be aware that i can fall back into the trap of gambling. Once we start we don't stop and that will only ever end badly.
Mixer made a great post to talk you through what you can do to give yourself the best chance of taking control of your life again. While the money is the easy thing to focus on its the depression, lack of self worth and time lost that hurts the most. You can get it all back, over time working recovery.
Check out this page for info and keep posting on here for help and support!
https://www.gamcare.org.uk/forum/want-do-something-read-2
All the best.
The decision to stop is the only thing that you need to concentrate on as this is the avenue to happiness! If money issues are severe talk to step change charity that is great for sorting the debt side over time / get interest stopped! Keep posting
Hi Jappy. I've made the same decision today, I didn't gamble for a couple of months last year but then ended up back on it. This is the year for me. I'm not in debt so I'm lucky in that respect but I've been to the doctors with depression and although it may not be linked the compulsive desire to bet on every live football game isn't healthy. I want to save some money next year, not waste it on gambling. Gamblers don't prosper. This place is a great place to be and helps you concentrate your mind away from having a bet.
Hows it going Fairwarrior? You make an excellent point in that stopping and facing your debts makes you poorer and more miserable. Counter this with how much poorer you'd be if you continue...
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