Finally facing up to my actions

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(@nhl9pce6x8)
Posts: 13
Topic starter
 

Hi All, 

So I'm here finally admitting that I have a problem, I've finally admitted to friends and family. But it's taken far too long and now cost me far too much.

So 4 years ago, I stole money to fund my gambling addiction, went to court was sentenced, lied to everyone about getting help. Now 4 years later, I've done the same, only this time I've lost my job, my family  my children because I've lied to them for the last 4 years. Finally though I've stopped lying about it even if it's all too late and I'll probably be looking at prison time. This really is a killer, look out for people and catch it early

 
Posted : 9th August 2023 1:45 pm
Tazman
(@tazman)
Posts: 397
 

Its never too late we can only move forward what ever done in past is water under the bridge, first thing first get all the blocks in place, hand your finances over the first 21 days is crusial, seek professional help through Ga also Gamecare run chatrooms 7 days a week 8pm-9pm u can ask other members for advice this is a life long illness and its not something to be taken lightly well done for admitting you have a problem their also an icon on your right u can call the hotline at any time, i was in a similar position not so long ago 

 
Posted : 9th August 2023 11:18 pm
(@nhl9pce6x8)
Posts: 13
Topic starter
 

@tazman Cheers.

You know today, I've woken up with like a proper weight off my chest, it's probably the first day in I don't know how many years where I feel like I can actually do this .. Reading I'm not the only one and seeing how many people are happy to provide support is amazing 

 
Posted : 10th August 2023 7:12 pm
Tazman
(@tazman)
Posts: 397
 

It an addiction we cannot get complacent, gambling for the vast majority is classes as entertainment and we are the unlucky one, the only thing we can do is take each day as it comes something having a relapse is not actually to bad as u can learnt from and understand things better what worked for me was trying new things out changing old habits such as diet and excerice helps also having a negative mind set doesnt help and gambling plays on your insecrurites, we can never be gamble free as ive tried different things such as limiting gambling and even watched a few gambling youtube video nothing worked for me and i relapsed i realised i cannot be anywhere gambling related at my worst i couldnt even watch a gambling advert without being tempted however through many stops and starts im having fewer relapses over the years i have began to understand myself better however i now believe a relapse can come at any time and by using this chatroom and investing my time on here one thing certain it helping me, it a life long illness so its not something we can take lightly my life alot better then my last relapse 

 
Posted : 10th August 2023 11:31 pm
(@rfbq09kaw1)
Posts: 28
 

That sounds frightening.

 
Posted : 11th August 2023 2:52 am
 Tony
(@cyea806mji)
Posts: 4
 

it may appear frightening but you have already made the first steps. As time goes on it will become easier as you find ways to change your behaviour for the better. Don't give up or give in to the urge. As each week goes on see that as a week of success and feel proud about what you have achieved.

 
Posted : 11th August 2023 10:41 am
(@nhl9pce6x8)
Posts: 13
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I relapsed 3 months ago, but I tried doing it the wrong way, I self excluded from betting sites  for 30 days at a time but then stuff happened in my personal life and I relapsed massively. To the point where now I'm facing prison for taking money from my work in order to fund my habit once my money had ran out. I've finally taken the plunge and registered all my details in order for full exclusions from anything gambling related used gamstop,  gamcare, and gamban too. This time I wil do things right and make sure I make the right decisions 

 
Posted : 11th August 2023 4:42 pm
(@q86r2ugj5p)
Posts: 1987
 

Hi

The addictions and obsessions indicated that I was emotionally vulnerable.

I am a non religious person yet I am more a spirtual person.

My conscience is based up on spirtual values.

Walking in to the recovery program I was so lost and confused.

By attending meetings and sharing healthy therapies I saw and felt my paisn fears and frsutrations in other people.

It took me  a very long time to understand that recovery means healing. 

In time my therapies helped me open up more and more.

My therapies helped me learn how to artiuclate what my feelings and emotions were.

My therapies helped me reduce my fears and reduced fears came more trust.

The healthy people in the recovery program helped me exchange very unhealthy habits in to healthy habits.

I got to qquestiona dn understand whay I use to procrastinate fulfilling my needs, fulfilling my wants and in time fulfilling my new found goals. 

Walking in to the recovery program I did not know or understand how unhealthy I was.

In time I learned how to be more self sufficient.

In time I learned how to have balance in my life.

In time I learned how to reward my self for being a more healthy productive person.

The healthy people in the recovery program helped me see and understand how much potential there was in me.

I got to understand if one person in teh meeting can achieve new founs skills, so can I.

Love and peace to every one.

Dave L

Aka Dave of Beckenham

 

 
Posted : 12th August 2023 11:03 am
(@1wb3etxqva)
Posts: 7
 

Saturday afternoons have always been my killer . Yesterday I went and played snooker instead of burying myself in the formbook ! Still trying to take the temptation away ?

 
Posted : 13th August 2023 2:15 pm
(@nhl9pce6x8)
Posts: 13
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@1wb3etxqva Well Done, sometimes that's what's needed, I took myself away from my phone for about 3 hours, not because I could bet if i needed (I cant) it just made it easier, I found myself cleaning my muns husbads tools. Taking the temptation away or taking away what would be the norm (having phone in hand betting) has actually really helped me 

 
Posted : 13th August 2023 6:15 pm
(@1wb3etxqva)
Posts: 7
 

Thanks Goody 

it’s finding something that works, everyone will be different but being away from phone . iPad tv at peak times has to be a help ?

 
Posted : 13th August 2023 8:05 pm
 Mc3
(@mc3pv68u59)
Posts: 1
 

Reading this is almost my exact situation, not sure if you want to or not but message me, ill be on the chat tomorrow evening at 8 if you want to private message? 

 

I'm in the dark right now regarding police action etc but i 100% get what you mean about a weight being lifted off your shoulders. My family all now no, but Ive left it way to long and done some bad things to get where I am now

 
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