Hi all,
I have reposted this on here from the recover gamblers forum---
Like many of you I thought I would never have this problem of gambling but guess what it gets you and screws your life up...
I'm 27yrs old degree educated, earn 40k a year, company car, intelligent but gambling had got the better of me .... I had everything going for me had my own house which I sold last year before my gambling addiction for business purposes but wish I never did as my money would still be tied up I. The property and safe but I've lost all the profit I made which is 20k and it makes me sick thinking I've lost everything I've worked for and the worst thing is I've told my fiancé the other day who I'm engaged to that I've basically gambled away our future away which is making me feel really low and guilty because she deserves better and feel absolutely low at the moment to the extent where I keep thinking what have I done....but being the good girlfriend she is she has said she will stick by me along as I don't gamble no more and she even went to the extent of opening up a joint savings account to help get the money back that I've lost but I still hate my self for the situation I've got myself into...
I can't look my dad in the face I've become depressed which is effecting my work as I can't focus on what I'm meant to be doing and I've come to a point where I'm losing hair on my beard which my mum noticed and my gf noticed which is a sign of depression...
So I'm here thinking of a solution and need to make money not lose it ... So thinking of starting a business as that's my line of work into selling products on sites such as groupon which hopefully will work and make me some money and recoup my loses aswell as get a 2nd job which my wages will go directly I to my gf's account not mine but I still hate myself for what I have done and need to turn my life around again... And I feel posting this up is the first step in recovery otherwise I may have resorted into doing illegal activities to make my the money I lost which is completely out of character for a person who has a degree earns 40k a year, never done anything illegal in mylife but this is what gambling gets you thinking like ... Please help !!!!
Hello My friend...
Welcome to the site....
sorry to hear of your loss.........it is good you have recognised the problem now as many lose there full house capital too and have nothing.......so even though it is very bad it can be saved.....to a point if you but in place measures to stop this gambling.
you have a supportive girlfriend - which is a great help.......maybe she can take some pressure off your urges by handling money on your behalf to avoid further issues?
Read as many posts as possible --these forums are a treasure trove of great tips and advice on beating this evil.
Best Regards
Wayne
Sounds like you need to focus your energy on this new empire , I was in a similar situation and it doesn't matter how much you earn from £10k to millionaire footballers they all find a way to blow the lot.
Personally I closed all my betting accounts via self exclusion for a minimum of five years , that basically gives you 5 years to get your life back together and then self exclude from all the bookies in which you are comfortable.
It might also be a good idea to call Gamcare get some free counselling and get to the root of the problem , it will aid your recovery.
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