how much can you support an addict? I’ve been by my partners side picking up the pieces for 8 years. I finally thought he was on the right path and after 18 months of being gamble free, he’s gone right back to it, not just one lapse but he won’t stop, every opportunity he has he will gamble. He now won’t have an honest conversation with me, he will lie through his teeth telling me he’s put blocks in place but he hasn’t.Â
I’m actually so sick of him and his behaviour. Ive been actively taking steps to support him because this is what HE wanted me to do yet he still continues to lose control over and over again, it all just feels a waste. I’ve tried my best to understand this is a disease but he tells me one thing and does another.Â
I don’t know how much longer I can put up with it.Â
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Hi @jade
Thank you for sharing with us what is happening to you right now.
You illustrate a very difficult situation that many people who are affected by their loved ones gambling harms are in or have been in.
I would like to let you know where you can seek support for yourself to help you negotiate the situation you are in, as I can hear your anger loud and clear, you sound at the end of your tether and perhaps don’t know what to do next.
Please consider getting some sessions with one of our practitioners who can support and guide you: Find local support - GamCare
And we also have this virtual group for women affected by someone elses gambling harms  https://www.gamcare.org.uk/news-and-blog/blog/way-forward/
You can also ask the helpline to refer you to these support options : 0808 8020 133
Do consider reaching out for more help as it can be hard to cope alone with this.
All the best
Jane
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