Hi, I’m new to the forum, recently I gave up 9 years of gambling. I attend counselling sessions what’s meant to be once a week and regarding the gambling I haven’t had an urge or thought about doing it again. I feel though I’m getting more depressed, since then I’ve lost a relationship with my girlfriend, who I believe I didn’t treat fairly. I lied and manipulated a lot. The other day we had a huge argument over another guy because I feel insecure. She now needs space but still cares a lot. I don’t know how to feel as all I feel is upset not being with her.
Thanks
Hi Phil,
Welcome to the Forum!
I was sorry to read that your relationship has ended. That is difficult to go through and you said that you hav erecently stopped gambling, too.
Often gambling works to distract from feelings or to cope with feelings and when you have just stopped, you will slowly need to learn how to do so without gambling. It can happen that you feel more upset now as you do not have gambling to numb these feelings with.
Have you thought about going to your GP and talk about this? You are also welcome to get in touch with us to talk this through if you wish. You can contact us on the HelpLine on 0808 80 20 133 or on the Netline https://www.gamcare.org.uk/frontline-services/netline
Both services are open from 8 am to midnight every day.
Kind wishes
Gabriele
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