Hi I Just Recently Lost £1000 And Still In State Of Shock

Hi abettertomorrow,

Thanks for your encouragement, i am glad you actually managed to get over it, i am at moment struggling to accept the loss and have bad anxiety and depression, could not sleep past two days. One thing to mention that i was still new to gambling and only played occasionally and as soon as i win i quit and never took risk playing big. On other hand i had feeling inside that i should quit now before too late. But back in mind it kept saying me that i am not gonna quit unless something bad happens then i will learn, maximum i was ready to waste about £100, but i blow £1000 in few hours

Half-Life wrote:

Hi FM

Carry on chasing losses and something much worse than this will happen. That's guaranteed.

The money has gone. It's not coming back least of all by gambling. Put the loss behind you, get your blocks in place and accept that the only long term winner in gambling is the bookie.

I have to swallow this loss that's why i am here otherwise i would have been playing and chasing my losses, its my second day i am not playing infact i self exclude most of the sites emptied my bank accounts but need emotional support

Half-Life wrote:

Hi again

SE is a good step but there are an infinite number of sites out there so you will need to install a blocker to all your devices too. Get your wife to set the password and give her full control of the finances. You need to make it as hard as possible for you to gamble impulsively.

Emotional support has its place and you will need to address the root cause of your uncontrolled gambling but at the moment my advice would be to prioritise blocking your access to gambling so you can't act on impulse and make matters worse.

All the best

Hi i already have gambling block software all finances took by my wife , one thing to mentioned that in my view i was not addicted to gambling and played very occasionally , i refrain myself not to play for one year so i am sure i can exclude myself permanantly not to play. I hardly played occasionally maximum four months or so in all my life, the only regret i have that i was thinking of leaving for long time when i was winning because in fear that may be in future i lose big but could not decide.

Now had to pay big price to decide

Hi guys thanks for your comments although i am sure i was not addicted and i was just playing non seriously winning £10 £20, £30, £40, £50 then quitting maybe once a week or sometimes twice a week recent days , i could leave the gamlbing anytime without losing a penny after winning as i always thinking about leaving but could not decide when to quit and then went downhill, its my second day no gambling and urges are fading away looking forward to counselling session and i had to accept that i lost what i have made from gambling. I consider myself as lucky because i did not pay back with my own money i paid back the moeny which made from gambling past two years, mathematically if i calculate i am still better off £50 after taking away the £1000, this is how i make my heart feel better

Hi Deano,

Thanks for your encouragment yes realy looking forward to counselling and i am sure its going to help and get rid of my regrets, there are so many whys and wishes in still my mind like why i countiued playing why i did not decide to quit when i already considering quitting and also i wish i did not play on the 17th April then i would not lose the money etc

Hi deano,

Thanks for your support its really helping me and giving me power to beat my urges for the loss, so far so good

Hi FM79, well done for posting what you have here,

Anxiety and gambling are familiar bedfellows; there are certain things that heighten gambling urges and anxiety - caffeine, lack of sleep, alcohol, poor diet, work issues, problems at home - they can also mainly be dealt with in the same way i.e. "riding the storm" - these feelings go up and down all day long, and on some days, they are ever-present.

But, with gambling, they do lessen after a time - you are right in the thick of things at the moment, and there will be times where you don't think that they will ever die down, but they do my friend, trust me on that, but you have to grit your teeth and "ride the storm" until that starts to happen.

After a time, wins, losses, battlescars, bonuses and the like all start to push themselves to the back of your mind - you can't win because you can't stop - you might be fine for a couple of days or so, but you can't be sure when you will have a weak moment where all of your willpower goes straight out of the window. If things get hard, keep your mind occupied and focus on getting through the day; be positive, use your time constructively and make plans for the future - gambling will only ever take your precious money, and your even more precious time; don't let regret grow, don't make this a lifelong issue, you are worth more than that my friend.

JamesP

Thanks guys its day 3 without playing but woke up with full of anxiety feel like nothing interested and all finished in life.I Cant think right nothimg ineterested had nightmares while sleeping missed counsellor's call twice. Last night i was nearly going to play while self excluding from gambling sites but did not play.

Yes deano i still struggling to accept the loss i was hoping that by the time goes it will fade away but i think for some people it going to take long time

FM79 wrote:

Thanks guys its day 3 without playing but woke up with full of anxiety feel like nothing interested and all finished in life.I Cant think right nothimg ineterested had nightmares while sleeping missed counsellor's call twice. Last night i was nearly going to play while self excluding from gambling sites but did not play.

It is going to be like that for a little while my friend; all the thoughts of what has happened will be cascading around inside your head relentlessly, but it won’t be like that forever, as time passes, that little chink of light at the end of the tunnel will get just a tiny bit brighter.

What you must try and do is focus – today, and in the short-term, you won’t be as clear-headed as you want to be, so plan for a time when you are. Write down some of the things that you want to experience in life without gambling, write down what you want to achieve, where you want to go, what you want to learn and what you want to do. Set some goals, get your mind away from where you are right now and be positive my friend – it’s tough, really tough at times but the longer you go without gambling, the better you will feel – I have been 8/9 years without it now and it is the furthest thing from my mind, you can get there too if you wait it out, “ride the storm”, and get through each day, each hour at a time – you can’t run before you can walk, accept that it will take time my friend, and look forward.

JamesP

Hi

First I started gambling in Casino in London since January 2015. Since I strated I lost More thank £50000 pounds. Now I am in depth of £50000. I am having personal and family problem.

Please anybody to help me in advice.

Day by day I am having bad relationship with my surrending individuals.

I can not sleep. I have baby of 8 years old. I am always feeling axiety feeling norvious thinking that I need to pay back my relatives movey which is almost £20,000.

I have debt with bank almost £30,000.

Before I used to sleep 6-8 hours a day since I started gambling I can hardly sleep 4-5 house. My health and mind is going down day by day.

I tried to committed suicide few times but when I think about my family my little boy I feel helpless how they will survive withou me. I spent my saving £30,000 as well.

Now a days I am forgetting eveything do on time because of thining about my and my family future.

Hi JamesP,

Its really nice that former gamblers still out there to help others with there experiense, quitting gambling was not difficult for me infact i was not even addicted playing and was playing for fun a bit make some money then leave and do other stuff then few days later come back again played little bit then quit. Its hard to swallow a sudden big loss but your possitive comments really helps, believe me if you people did not reply in my thread and encouraged me i would have given up by this time and start playing to chase my losses which i did not do so far i wish i could come earlier on this forum when nothing was lost.

rcb0788 wrote:

First I started gambling in Casino in London since January 2015. Since I strated I lost More thank £50000 pounds. Now I am in depth of £50000. I am having personal and family problem.

Please anybody to help me in advice.

Day by day I am having bad relationship with my surrending individuals.

I can not sleep. I have baby of 8 years old. I am always feeling axiety feeling norvious thinking that I need to pay back my relatives movey which is almost £20,000.

I have debt with bank almost £30,000.

Before I used to sleep 6-8 hours a day since I started gambling I can hardly sleep 4-5 house. My health and mind is going down day by day.

I tried to committed suicide few times but when I think about my family my little boy I feel helpless how they will survive withou me. I spent my saving £30,000 as well.

Now a days I am forgetting eveything do on time because of thining about my and my family future.

Hi rcb,

You really need counselling i suggest you to visit game care and get help i am going through same situation as yours but seems you were very well off but things can be change, the possitve things is that you have 8 year old kid which should give you hope for living. Arrange a counselling and try to forget like i am doing hope it will be better in future for you

You're very welcome FM79, happy to help if I possibly can,

If you have a big win, it will give you such a big high that you will be desperate to repeat it, often within hours. If you have a big loss, then you face soul-wrenching desperation to try and regain it. There is no inbetween - even if you stop for a few days, even if you can walk away on occasion, there will always be one time where all of your willpower and self assurity goes out of the window; it is a lose-lose scenario; accept it, draw a line under what has happened, and walk away my friend.

As the other post said, you seem to struggle with the fact that you might be an addict. It really depends on you my friend, it really depends on whether you can stop - if you are not, then stopping for a month, six months or a year shouldn't be much of a problem - you don't have to prove it to us, you have to prove it to yourself, that's what matters.

JamesP