I have had my day of reckoning today and the truth of my actions has come to light.
I have been gambling pretty solidly for the last few months and have lied about money coming in etc through my business.
There is no money coming in, I have 4 loans, Pawned jewelry and worst of all have fabricated the most insane bs to my incredibly supportive, honest wife.
She has seen a side to me she never knew existed.
I have had issues before and been to GA. Many years ago. I have just been back to my first meeting tonight and for the next week will go everyday and will have a one day at a time mentality.
I am incredibly scared this is the end of my 1.5 year marriage with a young daughter. I know I should only be worrying about the things I can control but I am struggling to sit idle watching my marriage end.
Apart from being humble and transparent about everything, should I be doing anything to try and salvage my marriage or will that make things worse.
Humble, transparent and is all you can be now. The ball is unfortunately not in your court anymore. Your wife will need some time to process this. You need to show her you can change, but many people are scared to commit to a compulsive gambler. The risk of relapse is too great for some. All you can do is focus on doing everything you can to beat this for yourself. Blocks in place, meetings, therapy, hand over finances, create a spreadsheet of the financial carnage you have created and speak to Step Change or come up with a recovery plan. Once she sees you are deadly serious about beating it, you may have a shot, but that's going to be down to her.
Good luck. I wish you all the best as I've just gone through this exact thing so I know how you are feeling.
Stay strong mate, and keep coming here for advice and to read others thoughts. Really helped me out in my darker times.
All i can say is you're a brave man to let your wife know about this painful journey. You are not alone mate. I'm in the same situation as you are, the only thing is ..I'm not so brave to tell my partner. I feel like I've been a complete n***e and lied her too much. So well done for coming true.
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