hi there
this is going to sound the same as other posts, but I just needed to get it out of me. I’m just feeling like a fool for relapsing and can’t get the losses out of my head.
At the start of 2018 I had lost 33k over a 4 year period and decided that enough was enough - I went to councelling and handed over my finances to my wife. We were getting work done on the house and it meant that because I was dealing with the builders I was back in charge with the money- a couple of weeks ago, I was feeling positive with my bank balance and decided to have a bet at the casino, lost £500 that night .....I felt c**P and wanted that £500 back, went online and through chasing losses lost another 11k....11k, money for the builder.
Why do I do this to myself - i was in a good place and now in a worse position than I was at the start of the year. Worse thing is that I now want that 11k back.....I can’t stop thinking about it, and feel the only way I’ll be happy is that I make this right financially so my wife doesn’t find out about my relapse....I know this isn’t the right answer...so I’m constantly torn between thinking I’m due a big win to this could get worse andit’s wearing me down. How do I get this out my head.
Thankyou caughtup,
Everything you say is right - it’s just really hard to justify what I’ve done and just want to make it right. I know gambling isn’t the answer. You are right I do need to register with GAMSTOP, but haven’t done so yet as I still haven’t come to terms with the fact that the money is gone and I still have a chance of getting it back. I need to do it iknow.
Hi Rupidona, sign up with gamstop this afternoon. I’m going to be honest with you mate, you are not going to win that money back, even if you hit a big win and you win the £11k the gambling demons will just convince you that your on a streak and you can win more...next thing it’s all gone and more. We have all been there. Sign up to gamstop and make today the first day you are free from this addiction, you will start to feel better everyday. Iv relapsed so many times but this time I am 100% committed to beating it, the debts are done, chasing them will just make it worse, iv signed up for the full 5 years on gamstop and I already feel like I’ve taken some control back.
Keep your chin up, you will beat this
Yes you need to take the leap and sign upto gamstop. I’ve also banned myself from my local casinos for 5 years and life is much easier now. After 18 years of trying to give up I’m on day 110 now. Onwards and upwards
Worv wrote:
Hi Rupidona, sign up with gamstop this afternoon. I’m going to be honest with you mate, you are not going to win that money back, even if you hit a big win and you win the £11k the gambling demons will just convince you that your on a streak and you can win more...next thing it’s all gone and more. We have all been there. Sign up to gamstop and make today the first day you are free from this addiction, you will start to feel better everyday. Iv relapsed so many times but this time I am 100% committed to beating it, the debts are done, chasing them will just make it worse, iv signed up for the full 5 years on gamstop and I already feel like I’ve taken some control back.
Keep your chin up, you will beat this
this is great advice. i8 couldn't have said it better. i signedup with gamstop yesterday and of course i think of the thousands i lost. its tough but if you were to gamble again and win, you will be on that high and will want to win more and before you know it, you will lose even more. i bet you wish you could go back to just losing that 500 pounds and wish you could have stopped there before turning it to 11k. its a vicious cycle. People who have gambling problems find it extremely hard to break this cycle. sign up to gamstop. accept the loss as a mistake and start again
11K is a big blow was it a credit loss or did you have the funds to spare ?
if it was a credit loss then put it down as a paper loss and chip away at it over a couple of years ?
if it was your own money then you can put it as a very expensive lesson
i find it's very important to remind myself of the dangers of chasing losing bets
when i have lost several bets my judgement is usually clouded and makes me do stupid bets just for the sake of it which usually results me in losing even more
like any drug if you try to go cold turkey for a month or so and you will start to feel better
nipped wrote:
when i have lost several bets my judgement is usually clouded and makes me do stupid bets just for the sake of it which usually results me in losing even more
That's exactly what i do. its an awful feeling. i just lose self control and my anxiety rises which causes me to gamble irresponsibly. then afterwards i curse myself for being stupid. i registered with gamstop yesterday so hopefully its the begininning of the end
Thanks all for your messages. After blowing another 5k I’ve decided enough is enough - I’ve registered with Gamstop. Don’t think I’ve come to terms with the money lost but now I don’t have a an option to win to back...weight off my mind. Feeling somewhat down knowing what a fool I’ve been over the past years and what that money lost could have done for my family ...but I’m luckily that’s I’m not in debt....so now I can look forward to saving for holidays etc.
Hi Rupidoda,
The best thing you could have done is signing up to GAMSTOP, well done! If you hadn't you'd have just carried on and on and wasted more and more money and feeling worse and worse.
We'd all turn the clock back and not lost all our respective monies but once its gone its gone. We've all been fools. Like you you I don't have the opportunity to win my money back but already I feel better for knowing I can't play and waste any more. That said it's not easy but better than the alternative.
Look at the positives. Lots and lots of people on here are in debt (me included) you're not. be very grateful for that and as you say start saving for holidays or other lovely things instead of lining the casinos pockets, your family will appreciate it a lot more than the casino!!
Good luck.
Hi Stew, was just responding you your post lol. Your post encourage me to register!
Hi Rupidoda,
Really pleased my post had encouraged you do register. It's hard for me as it will be for you and many others on here but really VERY VERY well done for doing so, long term we won't regret it!
Catch up soon.
Best wishes Stew
Rupidoda, All the best in the new year to come. tara
Well done for signing up with GAMSTOP! I'd strongly suggest that you self exclude from the land based casinos as well... I believe you can do it via the SENSE program
Just joined. Today I Hope is the first step.
After 25 years which has now cost me everything. It is excuse the pun the last chance saloon. Any tips on how to see this through?
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