Argh, I have that sunken sick feeling yet again. I have got my wages today and I have blown the lot on gambling. Tomorrow I am not going to be able to afford anything and My partner is going to ask where have my wages gone because I just got them.Â
He has no clue about my gambling. Why am I such an idiot, why do I keep doing this. Even when I am losing money I say to myself that this is wrong just cut my losses and take what’s left, but I never do and then I lose the lot. It’s a vicious vicious cycle. I have debts coming off my ears. & owe people money it’s got so bad. I dunno where to start. I am working just to pay my debts which is sickening.Â
I am at my wits end with no money and gambling isn’t here to help me when I need it, I know gambling is no good for me. How can I stop!!
Hi Charosully
You will need to tell your partner about your addiction as soon as possible and I mean tell them about the real extent of the problem including all the debts. Or at least tell someone you trust. The addiction thrives in secrecy. Tell someone, but your partner will be the most important person so you will need to tell them at some point sooner rather than later. It’s an important step to recovery.Â
What worked for my husband is GA, gamstop 5 years, all self exclusions possible and my support (i manage our finances, i check his bank and credit report with his agreement).Â
Take it one day at a time. I wish you all the best.Â
P
Hi
I like many people did not stop gambling completely from day one.
It was very important to go back to meetings as soon as possible.
In time I got to understand what my last emotional trigger was.
I needed to go to more than one meeting per week at the beginning.
Simple because I felt so emotionally vulnerable.
In time once I got honest with my wife she asked only one thing from me.
To know exactly when I had last gambled again.
At the end of each day she would ask me if I gambled that day.
The more honest I got with my self the more honest I could be with my wife.
Addictions and obsessions only indicated that I was emotionally vulnerable and very confused and lost with my self.
Going to the recovery program worked for me.
No one could stop me gambling that was going to be my achoice.
Today I do not want or need to gamble.
Today I do not want or need to lie.
Today I do not want or need to live in fear and anxiety.
Love and peace to every one.
Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham
Yep, agreed. You need to put on GamStop for the full 5 years sign up gamban and put gambling blocks on your bank. I'd also contact gamcare as they can give you help support and advice each step of the way.
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