I only wish I was new to all this

[quote=ALN]Hi, I don't have to tell you that your life is in a mess and that this illness as made you a slave to it and degraded you. If you take it any further this will no doubt lead you to an early grave. For yourself most of all, as well as family and friends, come clean. The responses may be hard to take but you need support with this. No excuses, the first thing you need to do is hand over all bank cards, credit cards, and cash to a member of your family

I Appreciate your reply I know people on here are here to help others so thumbs up from me.

Early grave you say, I will be 100% honest about that,I know it made me ill but after all these years of being like I am I have some times thought an early grave is not such a bad thing to be honest. I know loved ones will be upset but we all pop our cloggs and when I pop mine my poor suffering partner will be able to collect £30,000 from my previous work pensions. I see that as a bonus for her and my daughter at least they will be able to do nice things wth that money where as if I got my hands on it then it would be dust , gambled away. At least I can not take that money so sooner the better for me haha.. As for give my bank cards up to family. I am on skid row mate since being laid off from work.

I know what you say is the right path to take Aln. Today is the day of the shame ,guilt , anger and pain we all feel, And probably the next few weeks to boot. Its like a second emotion to me I have felt it so often , But yes you are correct and to sort myself out once and for all that is the way to do it.

Hello I'm very sure you didn't say 5 years ago that your current situation would be your ideal life goal/objective. No one would choose to experience the feelings gambling brings upon us. Sometimes, events take on a life of their own and before we know it we've arrived at this point without even realising we set out on the journey. So no, you are not a bad person at all. Desperate maybe, and desperate people do desperate things. I really believe ALN has a point about depression. Sadly, it's often a catch22 situation. I never thought I'd get involved in gambling but I did following a major bereavement. Please don't condemn yourself, you will find a way back. ( I'm still looking for the way back ) All you can do is think in terms of damage limitation and go from there. All the best.

Hi Hollaway,

Have you signed up to Gamstop ?

Have you signed up for 5 years ?

If you had difficulty registering, have you phoned them ?

Have you self excluded from local bookmakers premises ?

Have you handed over control of your finances to someone else ?

Have you attended any Gamblers Anonymous meetings ?

GA might not be for everyone, but I'd highly recommend giving it a try.

The rest are basically essential practical steps for anyone serious about giving up. I'd self excluded from individual sites for 6 months - but basically it was a sticking plaster - I knew I had other accounts, or could open a new accounts.

I don't think I was ever committed until I properly self excluded.