Been a gambler for 10 years now I was off it before the summer but when the football started again I went back to it,long story short I lost 2 grand in two weeks which is basically all my money,I don't want to tell my girlfriend that I've dont this again as the last time she said she wasn't gona put up with it and rightly so.i lied to her face a couple nights ago about it and I know she won't be happy when I tell her,any advice on how to approach this situation would be appreciated,would love to be able to stop gambling but I know I have a problem.
Hi mate well done for posting and reaching out its a good start.
Mate I have had the same problem been gambling for about 8 years lost 30k probably? been with my partner 5 years never had money etc.
She promised to leave me a few weeks ago because I told her I had lost a few grand and that I would 'stop'.
I gambled again a week later and couldn't hide it - I lost too much. I told her everything and I mean everything. All the money, all the lies and deceit. Difference was, this time I told her I had already done a lot to stop like I have gone to conselling and blocked all accounts and been to the casino and barred myself.
My point is show her you are stopping...I showed my partner my diary on here to show her I've been stupid but I'm not a nutter...people do make the same mistake and millions others will too they just haven't had enough like us to post on here.
She deserves to know to make her choice but why not help yourself by showing her that you are stopping....could be a big influence on her choice.
All the best mate and whatever the response from your girlfriend, keep posting and get the help you deserve
Firstly welcome to the forums, it's the best place to be.
If I were you mate, I'd spend some time on here just browsing and understanding other people's stories - and come up with a bit of an action plan. Whether that be blocking access to finance, or going to Gamblers Annonymous or getting counselling etc. And then be honest to your girlfriend and show her that you're going to be working on it.
All the best with everything. Once you get on the right road, things will start to fall into place.
Thanks for the support,I told her everything last night,she's vowing to help and support me and try and get me off it,unfortunately yesterday I lost €200 trying to win my money back after fighting with myself in my own head all morning that I wasn't going to gamble and it got the better of me.this is day 1 for me now and with the support of my girlfriend I hope I can get rid of this horrible addiction that has ruined me.
Hi estabon, your girlfriend needs to take over your finances so you can't get to more money. She needs support, she can't fix you, only you can. She needs to be strong and in control. Don't let her pay your debts, it's not for her to bail you out. Call gamcare get some advice, maybe go to GA. If you really want to stop you need help from others.
Thanks for the comment merry go round,yeah I've already given her my bank card,there's no worry as of her having to pay my debts as it is my own personal loan that i have and am paying that myself,but yes I agree she needs support and I'm going to try and put more effort into doing things for her instead of concentrating on gambling which has taken up so much of my time mentally aswell.hopefully il get to a GA meeting this week which I've never been to so kinda nervous about that.
You'll be be fine, you'll learn a lot!
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