My GF of 18 months who I love and she loves me left/moved out Friday when she first discovered my gambling problem. I’ve broken her heart and my own.
I’ve admitted to her I have problem and I’ve checked myself into in house rehab program for 28 days next week, I’ve gone to a GA meeting every day in the mean time.
I’ve blocked every single account on line and downloaded gambling block on my phone.
I’ve no access cash cut up my bank cards only Apple Pay for any shopping from now on
I’ve made a list and repayment plan for money owed and will be death free by June
Ive removed all social media and online newspapers from my life to erode negativityÂ
I’ve let my family know my issues who are not now talking to me now and my best mates who are supporting me
I’ve maintained contact with my ex who is supportive that I get the help I need but she also maintains we are done and she’s lucky she found out now before had kidsÂ
how or can you make her see it’s a illness I’ve admitted to and I am seeking professional  help ? I want to quit and I understand I’ve broke her trust and I manipulated her with regards money but one thing we never had a row or issues up to Friday, it was true love. Shouldn’t love give you one chance to show you’ve leaned and can manage this illness? I’d like to think I’d do same if was other way around and i don’t say that selfishlyÂ
how can I persuade her I can recover and be trusted long term after my recoveryÂ
I’m not expecting it to happen overnightÂ
Hi BM1984,Â
Well done for seeking help with your addiction and putting in place adequate blocks to stop you continuing.Â
In regards to your girlfriend leaving you unfortunately you don't have any control over what her choices are going forward. I understand that you think it's only fair that she gives you another chance but this is your perspective based on what you would like to happen.Â
The best advice from me would be for you to work your hardest at your recovery and what will be will be. Please don't have your recovery based on the condition of getting your girlfriend back as you will end up gambling again if this doesn't materialise. Believe that you are worth a happy stress free life with lots of contentment as your motivation and everything else will get better in other aspects of your life.
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Kind regards.Â
@walliss77 Thansk for good words and yes the recovery must be for myself and myself only I understand it’s just right now it’s so raw it’s hard to accept loosing someone so close so sudden and deep down ya know they are goneÂ
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You're right it is an illness and it is a really bad one that makes people do things that they would not normally do and act in ways they normally wouldn't. Unfortunately, it does break alot of people's trust in you and it takes a long time to earn that back, it does not happen over night. Well done on taking steps to prevent you gambling again and reaching out for help.Â
It may have come as a terrible shock to people around you when it came out on Friday, the best thing you can do at the moment is remember this feeling and remind yourself of it if you ever have the urge to gamble again. Life does start to get better once you admit the problem and stop gambling. It may not seem it at the moment, but all the time you don't gamble, it will get better.Â
Accepted into Rehab and start tomorrowÂ
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