I need some advice guys I'm new to this and don't know what to do!!!!!!!!
Hi I'm Gav and I'm 24 and really new too this, I think I have been kidding myself for a while now that I don't have a problem. I first started gambling around 17 just daft £5 football bets and a little bit off online poker nothing serious, and I really enjoyed it. Until I was around 22 when I started betting on horses roulette blackjack football and just about any other thing I could bet on even big brother 🙁 lol. I have a 2 year old daughter and a partner who is my world however is very soft and always gives in, every week when I get paid we work out bills and split the rest. Every single penny without fail goes on gambling in fairness I worship football and always have and normally double or treble my money on football bets, until there isn't any football and I start on horses and online casino and without fail lose all my money. It's my birthday tomorrow and I have had £500 through my hands in the last 12 hours including some early birthday money and I have lost the lot within hours I am fed up off this addiction taking over my life. From waking up to going to bed I am glued to my phone finding something to bet on it's really not healthy I am being a terrible partner and a bad dad and it pains me to say that because I love them to bits, however if I don't stop this now I will have nothing.
Hi Gav , My names Alan and I'm a Compulsive Gambler , welcome to the forum .
Great that youv'e relised that you have a problem at such an early age , so there's already a great deal of hope for you there !.
As CG's we cant win because we can't stop and that's the problem , enoughs never enough and we cant be happy with a little win and walk away , the money doesn't even become important ,it's just the buzz were chasing !.
If your serious about stopping then you need to get some blocks in place to stop you having easy access to gambling , if your betting mainly on line then you can download software that will stop you accessing sites , if it's bookies then you need to self exclude . it's not difficult and needs a couple of photos and a few minutes of your time also limit your access to cash or cards .
Doing this will keep your Time , money , location triangle broken , remove one and you can't bet ! , the rest is down to you and your willpower my friend , there's tons of help and advice on here and no judgement because weve all been where you are right now .
Keep posting and let us know how your getting on , if you need advice just post or contact Gamcare who will advise on lots of things you can do to help yourself !.
Best wishes for now my friend and welcome to recovery !
Hi GavTownson
You need help and you will find loads of people on here who will help with advice and experiences.
You do need to sit down with the people close to you and tell them what you have been doing and how much of a hold it has on you.
There is no shame in admitting to a problem.
Youve said it. "If I dont stop this now........." If you read the forum you will see countless examples of what happens if you continue to gamble.
Gambling is a mugs game for people who ignore the odds and seek a chemical high in the brain. It creates addicts who no longer have any control.
Get your life back. Your family can be a great help in talking it through and controlling your finances. Give gamcare a call and a visit to the doctor is also a very good idea.
I wish you all the very best
hi gaz
im joe touching post mate , i been there , still there gambling all day until balance zero then the dreaded chase can start , i got a young family at homwe too its jsut no worth it , if your gambling to make some money thats clearly don,t work in long run they even admit it themselves on there machines if your gambling for fun and escapism then clearly the fun has stopped , your family need your money more than greedy gambling operators,im not judging im telling myself this as much as you
get back in touch
Cheers for the posts guys I'm going to do everything I can to beat this family comes first. When I woke up today I felt like s**t knowing I have lost all my money again and it's my birthday plus I'm off work all week without a penny. I could of took my daughter for several days out but no instead I give the greedy bookies all my money. Thanks for the support and enough is enough this week is going to be tough having so much spare time however I'm going to tidy the house top to bottom to surprise my partner getting In from work. God bless her she just said to me and I go play snooker with my mate tonight and she will pay she really is a gem.
sounds like you got a good one there mate , my mrs likes a flutter too so shwe knows how easy it to go on a loosing binge ,
love snooker too , where u from ill pay for a game with u
don,t bet on it tho welsh open just started , i started spread betting on snooker lost £200 in a day
orite mate I'm from Newton Aycliffe in County Durham I'm S***e at snooker like just a bit of fun I think my highest break is about 24 lol. I really do have q good one mate she likes a little bet also how we said she won't with me trying to stop makes me feel bad that she has a flutter tbf because she never use to before we got together. Jus dry been giving another 20 pound for my birthday today and the urge to gamble it straight away came thinking it's only 20 quid I want more however I have bit the bullet so far and am determined to do so.
sounds like you got a good one there mate , my mrs likes a flutter too so shwe knows how easy it to go on a loosing binge ,
love snooker too , where u from ill pay for a game with u
don,t bet on it tho welsh open just started , i started spread betting on snooker lost £200 in a day
Hello
This is my first post but after the night I've had I have realised that I need help. In the last hour I have lost £500. It isn't even my money and I am so ashamed of what I have done. My head takes over and before I know it I keep depositing and losing. It's a vicious cycle. I haven't slept for the past three nights. This needs to end. I am so ashamed
hi little bear
sorry for late reply , be brave once your in gambling mode and your are a CG it can be hard to stop until you least get to break evens and the chasing can lead to big losses which you found out , welcome to the forum therel oads and loads of us , struggling with the bug don,t beat yourself up , if you can,t conrtol it stop it , why you got so much cash on you if its not yours ?? can i ask r u a lady ? what age? were u from ? try get sum sleep and food and post back here , you need to think of breaking the gambling triange just one bit , money , time , location , start living in freedom
im no saints but i started using this site months ago and do still gamble a bit but so much good advice to abstain from 1 day to 7 days to 1 year , its takes mental strength huge amounts
ps well done gavin if we mean this then we need to change our thinking £20 still a lot of money , if u think what you can buy with it , feed urself for a week which is more than a lot of the world can do
Oh god got paid and after holding out for a day I have went and blown £80 in two hours fed up of feeling like this man
Gav
just read this through from the start. We all understand but the only thing I can say is look into your daughters eyes & think what is most important ? Daft thing to say maybe but we all need to break the cycle. Hide the phone / change it / lock the laptop
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