Hi
I am new here but I have been reading the forum on here for two weeks.
I have reached rock bottom now through getting addicted to online bingo and slots it has taken over my life my family and partner have come second for about 18 months now as this addiction slowly has taken me over depositing winning playing losing depositing winning losing I realised about 6months-ago when I was winning and not withdrawing the money but playing it all and then chasing and then payday loans etc.
I had a shock when winning did not give me a buzz anymore I just had to play until out of funds. So what is the point of playing 1have lost 1000s and I. now have to learn the hard way That money has gone I must not lose anymore have lost 1000s but have gained payday loans that are taking all my wages have gained no respect for myself have gained lost time with my family I have not played since 28th April but I cannot stop thinking about the site and the money mess I am in and I know I now have to come clean with my partner it will break his heart he does not know what financial damage it has done to us, I have been very good at lying and covering up with payday loans but options have now run out I wished I could turn clock back but I can't. Sick of dreading post every day checking emails all the time I case he sees them .
Reading all areas of the forum has helped me as I thought I was the only one being this pathetic putting gambling before anything else which is how it has got.
Hello IW
First of all, well done for posting here and admitting that you need to stop this destructive habit. As you have said, you will see that you are not alone - your comment about simply playing until completely out of funds struck a chord with me; when I was losing I couldn't just stop - I had to punish myself by getting rid of all my money. Madness!
I know it will be very hard for you, but try to tell your partner - the stress of lying and subterfuge just adds to your woes. Most of the people here have found that 'coming clean', although painful, does help in the long run. If your partner can support you in your recovery, then so much the better for both of you.
Well done on your days free of gambling - soon you will be looking at two weeks of sanity, so stay strong. Coming on to this site daily will help you so much as you will always find advice, support and encouragement.
Best wishes for your journey.
Joanna
Hi Baggins
Thank you for your support yes The last few times Of gambling I could not stop til all my money went out of my account even though I still had 3 weeks til payday I think I must have thought get it out of my system for once and for all. Does not work have had a couple of urges since but did not submit as I cannot do anymore damage to my life and others around me.
I have started a diary I do believe this site is going to help me good luck to you and keep strong
Suzanne
Hi IW. Well done for admitting the issues. Defiantly better late than never.... My personal issue is with scratch cards not online. But its the same thing. Ive been in the payday loan cycle, id suggest either getting interest on then frozen and payment offers. Get a cashminder account with co op. New card. Get rid of ur old one. No credit check for a cashminder or you might (if its bad) consider a dmp.
As for the gaming. Its true isnt it that those who can afford it the least do it the most, i like yourself am in that catagory..... I think the moment you admit. Even on here is the very first step in the right direction. Its not like you will be rich next week. But it will add up in time in your favour. Best wishes and i will not use the word luck ok 🙂
Hi Suzanne,
Thanks for the kind words.
I can relate to so many things you brought up in your first mail. I hope things are getting easier for you. This site seems to be a great help... at least people understand us and give great advice.
Did you have a good weekend?
What kind of things do you recommend I put in the diary? Haven't started it yet.
Last gamble was 12th June and off all forms of gambling even the lotto.
I seemed to loose interest in one form of gambling but then found another .... more expensive & more addictive.
My eyes would be bloodshot from staring at the screen but I would still stay playing slots/bingo.
Let me know how you are coping.
SuzyLemon
Hi Suzanne
Thanks for dropping by my diary & giving me support, it means a lot. I hope your in the right mindset and managing to fight any urges and stay GF. It really is a lifelong commitment and the realisation that you cannot win nor get back what was lost. Small steps one day at a time, stay strong.
Mo
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