Parent of gambler

Hello Bend27,

Welcome to the forum, and thank you for sharing some of your story. 

You mentioned how your mood, finances and family relationships have been affected, and you state "I need support on where to go from here".

If you like, you could call us on our freephone 0808 8020 133, so we can give you details of free appointment-based services that cover your local area, if you like the idea of free 1-2-1 confidential support. 

https://www.gamcare.org.uk/get-support/find-local-support/

There are various GamCare resources that might interest you;

Money Guidance Service Toolkit (Factsheet 9 – For family and friends: Keeping your finances safe):

https://d1ygf46rsya1tb.cloudfront.net/prod/uploads/2023/03/J055641-Gamcare-Factsheet-9-WEB.pdf

GamCare Blog post ‘Should I lend money to someone with a gambling problem?’

https://www.gamcare.org.uk/news-and-blog/blog/should-i-lend-money-to-someone-with-a-gambling-problem/

Way Forward (GamCare virtual support group for Women affected by another’s gambling):

Semi-structured online Zoom sessions, Thursdays, 6.30pm-8pm

https://www.gamcare.org.uk/news-and-blog/blog/way-forward-virtual-support-group-for-women/

You can call us at any time, our freephone and live chat are both staffed 24 hours a day.

Take care,

Adam.

Hi 

I’ve just joined this site and I have found some useful information and thank you to Adam above.

I feel your pain. I’m a parent of a son who has bpd, severe health anxiety, benzo addiction and now gambling.

he has spent over £60000 gambling, numerous lies and guilt. I have lent him thousands to help with bills and food but the lies and manipulation get me and I give in. He’s my son and I love him and he does have a kind soul and is intelligent!

But the abuse that comes with it verbally. And liea and excuses. Then I find I lie to my husband to cover it.

My ex (his dad ) was abusive, an alcoholic and gambler. He tried to kill us and went to hell and back with police and witness support and protection orders.

it too me a long time to heal from this as well as my children. Now 16 years on I feel I’m going through the same things and trauma from my son.

im barely holding on. Im disengaging with my son but my heart is breaking.

x

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Hi 

I’ve just joined this site and I have found some useful information and thank you to Adam above.

I feel your pain. I’m a parent of a son who has bpd, severe health anxiety, benzo addiction and now gambling.

he has spent over £60000 gambling, numerous lies and guilt. I have lent him thousands to help with bills and food but the lies and manipulation get me and I give in. He’s my son and I love him and he does have a kind soul and is intelligent!

But the abuse that comes with it verbally. And liea and excuses. Then I find I lie to my husband to cover it.

My ex (his dad ) was abusive, an alcoholic and gambler. He tried to kill us and went to hell and back with police and witness support and protection orders.

it too me a long time to heal from this as well as my children. Now 16 years on I feel I’m going through the same things and trauma from my son.

im barely holding on. Im disengaging with my son but my heart is breaking.

x

Hi Kate,

Thanks for joining the forum and sharing peer support here.

If you like, you can start a topic thread of your own, so that more forum members will notice you.

It sounds like you have been through a lot, and that you have learned much from your experiences. You are probably already aware of the domestic abuse services and victim support services in your nation. If you are based in the UK, then please also call us on our freephone 0808 8020 133, so that we can support you too.

Take care,

Adam.