Hi all, I've been a member for a fair while now, but haven't been on in months, I have come from joining this site at a real real low to getting to exactly of where I dreamed of, with help and support, professional and through family/friends and brilliant advice from people in exactly the same boat on here. I self excluded and over time I pushed on in life, time I saved through not gambling led me to self employment, building a successful business and reclaiming my self pride.......here comes the big fat but......the last few weeks everything that could possibly conspire against me has, ranging from needing a operation ruling me out of any work for three months, leading to me selling my van to some unruly characters who are now threatening me and my family. House problems, financial problems blah blah blah.......it's left me in a seriously dark place, for the first time in months I'm getting the feelings back of no self worth, failing and the world being against me, making me want to kick out and resolve it in the only real way I know......I've gone from controlling tens of thousands of pounds without a flinch to having to literally lock my computer away to not just relapse. I feel so weak, I can't physically stand up for my family to these people, I can't work to provide and I know the final nail would be to let them down in the way that's best known to us all. I know life's tough, I'm just really struggling this past couple weeks at a head today.
Hi PG
Brilliant you came on here when you realised the triggers were in place to escape into the downward spiral. I had a relapse after nearly a year and only came back when I hit some losses. Please don't do the same. Talk about it with a trusted person or gamcare or your counsellor and remember this is not a solution. You have to work out each problem slowly but surely. Stuff happens but don't let it question your self worth. We can't control everything but we do have some power with help not to gamble. Remember how bad it feels after a horrible loss. By relapsing you will feel that again and make your situation worse. Stay strong. You can get through this. Keep writing and talking. Best wishes.
Remember gambling isn't going to make things better, it will make things worse. We've all gambled to escape lifes problems, but it just adds to them, doesn't solve them.
Sounds like you need to take a step back and work through everything in your mind that is going on in life. Breaking it down and writing it down can help, because it separates issues and individual issues are easier to tackle.
I would definitely be speaking to someone such as gamcare about your current situation. Remember everything is confidential and you'll get no judgement, just support and help.
Hi PG31.
Yes stess and depression gambling was one of my triggers so you have to realise that gambling is never the answer and there is help out there for you to deal with your other problems.
Nobody should be threatening you so you have to deal with that in the correct way with help from the authorities the police, CAB or a solicitor
Life has a way of throwing curveballs at you and it a healthy mind that matters. There is a point where finances and material possessions dont matter if its making you ill with stress. You are not letting anybody down and your family love you.
You need to look at it in a fresh way and it will all be sorted out.
Gambling wont help. All that will do is multiply your problems ten fold.
keep posting here and we can talk about it. There is support and plenty of people to talk to.
Best wishes from everyone on the forum
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