I'm back, that means bad news. I have had two major blowouts this year, each time I've lost a months wages. Today was the most recent one. I had been going well, but it seems the longer I abstain the more I blow out.
I'm really tired of trying to save so hard and then losing it all. I am totally fed up, but really the only positive thing I have to say is that I am not in debt...
It was no coincidence that the times I lost big are the times I had my card on me. This week I kept it with me because keeping only limited cash is very inconvenient, it feels like a straightjacket. But I know I need to go back to that way, because it worked
I just need to save again, and make excuses for why I have not bought any clothes, go out or buy anything.
I'm reaching my 30's now and I don't have anything to show for it.
Really, I really wanted to win today, it felt like just a decent win would set me straight, I DESERVED it, sounds stupid, but these casinos bleed me dry while I watch other's get their lucky big win every so often.
Damnjust need to lay low and try to keep my sanity with the rest of the year
Welcome to the Forum,
It sounds like you are trying to overcome your urge to gamble on your own and although you are doing well most of the time, there are times that the urge wins over. I guess that is because you don’t have a support system in place and a strategy to follow.
GamCare provides free counselling appointments in many locations around Britain. Counselling can help you develop a plan as well as understand better your behaviours around gambling.
We're open from 8am until midnight, 7 days a week. You're welcome to contact the GamCare advisers on our freephone 0808 8020 133. Alternatively, you can use the Netline:
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Best wishes,
Ana
Hi,
I rarely reply to posts on here, but yours struck a chord with me. I'm in the exact same position as you, no savings to speak of, also approaching thirty; it absolutely pains me for that to be the case. Therefore, like yourself, I chase a modest win hoping to give me some kind of start in life. I think the lesson here is that even if we did win relatively big, this would only add fuel to the fire. It isn't just money we are losing, but our sanity. If we stop now, and chase no more, our finances will build slowly but surely; way faster than they ever could through gambling, as we just can't control ourselves.
I'm not in a position to give advice, but thought I'd at least leave something since your situation is such a parallel to my own. I wish you well.
Hi may I suggest ringing up the bank(s) & reporting your debit / credit cards lost / stolen ? that way you don't need to tell them you have a gambling problem. & just pay for things in cash for a while...you can always get cash from your bank branch with ID .
Also when you're in saving / non-gambling mode treat yourself once in a while, if you just try to save every penny in some way you'll resent the cash; also if you do relapse further down the line at least you'll have some things to show for it, & won't have just gambled it all away.
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